While I am aware that it isnt illegal for my boss to be dating a coworker I have a couple of questions regaurding the situation. She is rude demanding and treats not only guests but fellow employees like they are dirt on her shoe...we have had almost every employee talk to our boss regarding her treatment with no change there has been nothing done to resolve the issue and the more we go to him the more things get worse. So I decided to go over his head and talk to someone above him at corp. Again nothing was resolved. She makes me so upset that I cry and dont even feel comfetable working there anymore but do not want to give the satisfaction of me quitting to her. I started with other employees logging her actions. We just had a girl fired for complaints against her and she had no where near the complaints of his live in girlfriend. Is there anything I can do besides talk to my boss to get this resolved? I dont know what to do anymore and things are only escalateing....Can I file written complaints against her or can i get fired because its a free will state and I am upsetting him? Please help.....Any steps I may need to take would be helpful...

Wow! This does sound like a tough situation. I certainly feel for you.

You mention that you understand that this behavior is not illegal. Unfortunately you are correct on that. It does not make good business sense to create such an environment in the workplac; but there are no laws prohibiting it.

For these actions to be considered illegal, you'd have to be treated differently because of membership to a protected class (i.e. race, religion, national origin, etc.). For more information about what constitutes discrimination, feel free to visit www.eeoc.gov/ (http://www.eeoc.gov/) online. I'd recommend reading through and see if any of the actions you experience fall into any of these categories.

If you lived in California there is case law that would support you but unfortunately that's about it. Favoritism is, as you stated, not illegal and under the laws of most states this is a very unfortunate situation but not one with any legal remedy. You are free to provide written complaints but not, I'm sorry to say, with any guarantee of job protection. If they were to fire you for the complaints it would be legal.

Sometimes life just isn't fair, is it? :(

Unfortunately, no law requires that human beings treat one another civilly, nor that an employer fire an employee because the other employees wish it. If this person treats everyone like dirt, then it is not on the basis on legally protected characteristics and therefore doesn't violate the law.

Yes, you can be legally fired for insisting the manager fire his girlfriend. You don't get to call the shots. Realistically, the chances that he is going to suddenly find her behavior unacceptable and fire her are slim.

Your choices are to either accept that this person is going to be difficult and not let it bother you, or find employment elsewhere. You can not make anyone do something they do not want to do, nor force someone to change.