He is in prison. I do not allow him to call us collect because he has ran my bill up three times where he refused to pay, and my phone got disconnected. He did pay AFTER the fact, but I still told him no more collect calls. He says I''m being mean and I'm only hurting our daughter. He is perfectly capable of paying (that's another story). So I told him he could write her letters and I will read them to her. She's 5.

Well, since he was so mad about not being able to call, he chose not to write at all. The last letter he sent was back in December of 2005. Well, she got a letter from him this weekend. I was at work, so I allowed my mom to read it to her. I always read it first before I read to her, because he's so stupid there is no telling what he'd say. Lo and behold, I call my mom a little later and she said she hasn't read the letter to my daughter yet because she wanted me to read it first.

In it, he makes references about kissing boys with the lights out, and things of that nature. I was SO FURIOUS! Well now I don't want him writing to her at all. Is there anything I can do legally? Is it possible for me to set visitations now before he gets out of jail? He can afford the most expensive lawyers, I can't. :mad:


PS He lives (and is in prison) in Missouri, I'm in Georgia.

well i guess it would depend on what he is in prison for and you can get a court hearing and i think the court would decide if they would bring in there that is how it worked in illinois they brought parents back for child support hearings that were in prison. I guess if you feel your child is in danger now is the time to get things strighten out! I had a problem kind of like this and it can be a real mess!

well i guess it would depend on what he is in prison for and you can get a court hearing and i think the court would decide if they would bring in there that is how it worked in illinois they brought parents back for child support hearings that were in prison. I guess if you feel your child is in danger now is the time to get things strighten out! I had a problem kind of like this and it can be a real mess!


thanks! If you want to send me a private message you can. I'd like to hear about what happened with yours if that's ok with you.

If you already have a divorce / custody / visitation order, present this letter to that court and ask that all contact cease.

If you do not have an order in place, get one. With this letter, you can prove that this person is completely unfit to have any rights to YOUR daughter.

I would file for a no contact order. Show the judge the last letter and that should be enough to stop all contact. If he continues to try to contact you or your daughter he could end up staying in prison longer. Good luck.