Back in May my 18 yr/old son was told that a girl he had a one night stand while drunk with was pregnant. He immediatly stated that he would take responsibilty as he & the girl were friends. He was under the impression that she was 17 as she had lead not only him but many friends they run with to believe. We found out that she had been lying & was only 15. I have spoken to an attorney & a police officer that said if he was charged it would most liklely be thrown out as there is a law that says you cannot consent to sex if you know the other person is under the influence. Also the fact that she mislead alot of people about her age would also factor that. So we are not worried about that. What we are concerned about is the fact that her parent have not made contact and have forbidden her speak to him or make contact with us. I printed the conversation he had with her online where she states this. We are worried that they may be planning to No Name the baby & will have their daughter sign the rights over to the baby to them. So if anyone knows ..

Can she No Names the baby on the birth certificate after naming him the father publicly, this has also been done on her Myspace acct (she says shes 16 there) and Does he go ahead and file something now to prevent her from giving the child to her parents? If she does name him doesnt he have to sign a paper acknowleding the child as his? Also we are moving back to Texas (my husband is being transfered) will he be able to bring the baby to his home or does he have to stay in a hotel here during the times aloted? My son doesnt want to hurt her but he wants his rights and he wants to be in the babies life. After the inital shock wore off (about 3 days) he has been making plans for his future and how to make sure his baby doesnt want for anything.

We (my husband & I ) are not in anyway trying or wanting to hurt the girl, but we are protecting our son. He is in High school and is actually going to be going to night school to try to graduate this December so he can begin working for the baby. He already has put money aside that he has made this summer including a savings acct soley for the babys needs. The girls parents havent tried to contact him since the dad threatened to shoot him, sent his son after him and then told that his daughter could be charged for simple rape.

My concerns are for my son, her and the baby. They need emotional support as well as financial and lots of LOVE!!!

Any advise is appreciated

I would though contact an attorney to fight for joint custody, or visitation at the least. She could lie and say she doesn't know who the father is, but if the son is willing to pay for a paternity test, and it shows that the baby is his, it won't matter what the parents think, you will have rights to your baby. Most kids run away from this, I am proud that he is trying to be there. I would though take the test, since she has lied in the past, she may be lying about herself only sleeping with your son. I would hate for him to spend about a million dollars total in the childs lifetime, if the child really isn't his. If this girl tries to get government assistance, you could contact the welfare office and tell them that if the child is yours, you can repay them for her assistance. They would pay for the paternity test. I only say this because, at least in our state, if you get monetary help from the government, and it can be proven who the father is by a blood test, to get the money back, they consider it worth the 500.00 for the test. Good luck to you!! Someone who speaks from a legal sense, and not just lifes examples, will be along to give you some advice!