I have an 11 year old nephew whose parents are divorced. He lives with his mother in Missouri and visits a couple of times a year. Everytime he has to go back home he gets very upset, most of the time to the point of making himself sick. He has told all of us the he still loves his mother, but doesn't want to live with her. His mothers family has alot of money and helped her with the divorce to get custody. We can't compete with that and would like to know if and when he can chose on his own where to live. He goes back to his mom in a week and he is already getting upset and crying about it. Please, if any one can help I would appreciate ti.

At his age, a judge MIGHT let him allow to express his wishes, but the judge is in no way obligated to honor his request. The only state that allows a child to make the decision (at or after age 14) is Georgia. When he is 18, he can make the decision for himself.