I left my ex husband in 2002 because he was very physicaly abusive to me and my two children. I was allowing him to see my children for visitation but was so worried about them everytime they went with him. At the time I felt I had no choice because he could have me arrested if I did not allow him to see them. I later found out through my lawyer that I could file a violence order against him. So I did so and the Judge granted my request. Before I recived my violence order my daughter came home pale and quiet from a visit with her father. I thought that he was just a jerk like always but later that night she began to cry and said her bottom hurt. I looked at it and it was very swollen and brused. I called him but he was very mean and said he did not know anything and hung up on me. So I called my family doctor and the doctor on call said it was just a case of hemorrhoids and she will be fine if I just got cream for it. I htought it was fishy but thought the doctor had to be right I mean she was a doctor. I later put my daughter in therapy because she would just lay on the couch and cry. I thought it was the divorce and all the abuse that we had been through. About four weeks into counseling I was informed by the therapist that it was sexual abuse and he was reporting it to the abuse hotline. We later went to a child advocacy place but at that time my daughter was so afraid because she was only four and my exhusband had threatened my daughter that he would kill myself and my mother (my daughter has a very close relationship with my mom). At my mediation for my divorce he was given no contact with my children because of the sexual abuse investigation. It has been a little while now and I have remarried to wonderful guy that takes care of my children. He has full medical, dental and vision on my children and myself. He lets me stay home and be a mom to my kids and at the time did not care that I was not getting child support (he has just started paying support). He is about $30,000 behind in support pyment. I have not had him arrested because I don't want his money I just want him to leave us alone. Anyway, my daughter has been therapy for a while now and is now seven. She went about a month ago and told the child advocacy team about what had happened and is now being investigated again. If they have her testimony, and the testimony of the therapist. Plus pictures my daughter drew for therapy. Can they take his Parental rights?

Thank you for your time.
May god bless your day in everyway!

chasefamily04

I left my ex husband in 2002 because he was very physicaly abusive to me and my two children. I was allowing him to see my children for visitation but was so worried about them everytime they went with him. At the time I felt I had no choice because he could have me arrested if I did not allow him to see them. I later found out through my lawyer that I could file a violence order against him. So I did so and the Judge granted my request. Before I recived my violence order my daughter came home pale and quiet from a visit with her father. I thought that he was just a jerk like always but later that night she began to cry and said her bottom hurt. I looked at it and it was very swollen and brused. I called him but he was very mean and said he did not know anything and hung up on me. So I called my family doctor and the doctor on call said it was just a case of hemorrhoids and she will be fine if I just got cream for it. I htought it was fishy but thought the doctor had to be right I mean she was a doctor. I later put my daughter in therapy because she would just lay on the couch and cry. I thought it was the divorce and all the abuse that we had been through. About four weeks into counseling I was informed by the therapist that it was sexual abuse and he was reporting it to the abuse hotline. We later went to a child advocacy place but at that time my daughter was so afraid because she was only four and my exhusband had threatened my daughter that he would kill myself and my mother (my daughter has a very close relationship with my mom). At my mediation for my divorce he was given no contact with my children because of the sexual abuse investigation. It has been a little while now and I have remarried to wonderful guy that takes care of my children. He has full medical, dental and vision on my children and myself. He lets me stay home and be a mom to my kids and at the time did not care that I was not getting child support (he has just started paying support). He is about $30,000 behind in support pyment. I have not had him arrested because I don't want his money I just want him to leave us alone. Anyway, my daughter has been therapy for a while now and is now seven. She went about a month ago and told the child advocacy team about what had happened and is now being investigated again. If they have her testimony, and the testimony of the therapist. Plus pictures my daughter drew for therapy. Can they take his Parental rights?

Thank you for your time.
May god bless your day in everyway!

chasefamily04
First, would your husband be willing to legally adopt your daughter?

Second,would your ex be willing to voluntarily relinquish his rights to allow adoption?

Try talking to ex about it, if you never recieved any type of public assistance you can use "forgiving" the CS arrears as a bargaining tool. However, this won't work if you had public assistance because the state would be owed the CS arrears.

If ex won't cooperate you can file a petition to terminate parental rights. You'll have to be able to have documentation of abuse, TPR isn't easy but it can be done. You'll probably need an attorney and having a step-parent willing to adopt will be a huge help. You can get a low cost consult by calling the Fl Bar Referral service 1-800-342-8011.

Our plan was for my husband to adopt the girls after I got his rights taken away and no he will not give up his rights. He is more of a its my property no one can have it kind of person. I just wish he would not think of them as property they are children not property. They are my everything! My youngest daughter dose not even know who he is she thinks my husband is daddy.

Our plan was for my husband to adopt the girls after I got his rights taken away and no he will not give up his rights. He is more of a its my property no one can have it kind of person. I just wish he would not think of them as property they are children not property. They are my everything! My youngest daughter dose not even know who he is she thinks my husband it daddy.
Maybe if you remind him that his "property" is costing him over 30 grand in CS arrears and that you are willing to forgive the arrears, it just might make him at least consider the possibility. Money talks.

If not, you'll have to file a petition asking the court to terminate rights, which may take awhile and you'll need an attorney for. Good luck.