I am in a situation where my husband and I work in a company of 150. My husband had an affair with a VP who is also the Director of HR; at one time it also included myself and her husband. Three months ago my husband told her to stop contacting him and I also did the same, after a week of constant harrassment. She was warned by our COO to stop contacting us however she continued to do so. My husband was informed by our COO after this last round of incidents that because the latest harrassment happend after hours that it was not considered work related, and we were to contact local law enforcment. Since that time, I have had to deal with her not relaying information to me in regards to my job. I have an understanding VP who knows the situation and has informed the COO of what has been happening. Three weeks ago another female employee left her job and reported almost the same situation but with her and her husband two years earlier and the same VP/Director of HR. (I do not know this person personally). Nothing has been done about the fact that the VP/Director of HR now has two seperate incidents in her company file. My job performance has been significant according to my reviews, even with this going on. However, I do not feel safe; at every turn something is being done by her intentionally to undermine me. Should I contact a lawyer?

My husband had an affair with a VP who is also the Director of HR; at one time it also included myself and her husband. This is water over the bridge now but did either of you anticipate that this has nowhere to go but ugly? If you're going to have affairs, at LEAST keep them outside of the workplace.

Should I contact a lawyer? You need to be more explicit about the harassment you say has been taking place. All you allude to is the VP continuing to attempt to contact your husband.

That sounds like quite the Peyton Place where you've been working. I'm a little surprised the CEO or COO hasn't fired the lot of you, unless they're also involved in the sexual hijinks.

it was not initiated on our side and we knew that at least his job was at stake, she implicity said that she took down others and would do so again.

So she coerced him into having an afffair? That constitutes sex discrimination but how is it you ended up having an affair with the husband?

Yes, you and your husband may want to speak to an employment law attorney. Perhaps there are more facts than you've shared here but you and your husband may have a tough time demonstrating these weren't all consensual relationships. If the woman is stalking your husband, then contact local law enforcement as the COO suggested. I also suggest you and your husband start looking for new employment elsewhere. I have no idea what the outcome of all this will be but I doubt either one of you has much job security where you are; at the very least it's obviously a very unpleasant and unhealthy environment to be working in.