WhansaMi wrote: (snip)
I agree that she is likely to feel that way, if she has felt all along that
it is *her* problem, followed up by *his* problem of dissatisfaction. However, as I see it, if DH has been actively involved in supporting his wife through it, they have been communicating about it, and she has felt that he
has made some sacrifices and worked on the issue *with* her, then she is more likely to be open to the idea of working on *their* problem with someone.
She is less likely to be defensive, she is going to feel safer in therapy, and
the prognosis is better. Conversely, if his position had been "Hey, I feel badly for you... and if you want to work on it, I'll be here, but it's your ultimate responsibility", and she is then unable to work it out on her own, she's going to feel as though he's saying that she needs fixing. It is a lot easier to get defensive in
that situation. Again, JMO. Sheila

Sounds pretty right on to me too, from all that has been stated here. He also
has some anger issues (which he has already acknowledged), which I'm sure don't
help the communications either.

Bill wrote: I haven't been reading your posts as of late (I figure I have enough already to deal with), but I'll respond to this, since I just saw it.... Werebat wrote: Brian wrote: Oh, Bill... my anger "issues" as you call them really go only as far as my behavior on here. No offense Brian, but this is just classic denial. What you do in here *is* indicative, informative, and illustrative of your attitude(s) in life. Whether you choose to accept that or not, is entirely up to you. (Just like whether Ron wishes to address some of his own denial issues, is up to him). You just have to open up to the possibilities, but that will only happen if - and when - you decide you want it to.

Think about this, too, Brian... It's Bill who is on your case. *Bill*,
for God's sake. Now is that really worth getting worked up over? :^)

- Ron ^*^

Werebat wrote: Bill wrote: I haven't been reading your posts as of late (I figure I have enough already
to deal with), but I'll respond to this, since I just saw it.... Werebat wrote: Brian wrote:> Oh, Bill... my anger "issues" as you call them really go only as far> as my behavior on here. No offense Brian, but this is just classic denial. What you do in here
*is* indeed somewhat indicative, informative, and illustrative of your attitude(s) in
life. Whether you choose to accept that or not, is entirely up to you. (Just like
whether Ron wishes to address some of his own denial issues, is up to him). You
just have to open up to the possibilities, but that will only happen if - and
when - you decide you want it to. Think about this, too, Brian... It's Bill who is on your case. *Bill*, for God's sake. Now is that really worth getting worked up over? :^) - Ron ^*^

I would say not! Now if RON, the PsychoBat, were on your case, THAT might
indeed be a different matter, LOL! Ron - did you ever find Sybil? Oh wait a
minute; I think I read that she passed away. Damn, you lost your chance. My
condolences.

Werebat wrote: I *know* who you are, Bill. I mean who you *really* are. So yes, you *should* be afraid.

Hey Ron! Did you ever point that finger at yourself, and find out who YOU
really are? My condolences.

Bill wrote: Werebat wrote: I *know* who you are, Bill. I mean who you *really* are. So yes, you *should* be afraid. Hey Ron! Did you ever point that finger at yourself, and find out who YOU really are? My condolences.

Hey Bill! I hear you're really into the Furry lifestyle now! So what is
it you like to dress up as? A badger? Maybe a fox or an aardvark? And
then you go around humping the furniture, or other fursuit weirdos.
Or even animals! You know you really are perverted, sicko.

Bill is looking for a good *stable* relationship! MOOOOOOOO!!!

- Ron ^*^

Werebat wrote: Bill wrote: Werebat wrote: I *know* who you are, Bill. I mean who you *really* are. So yes, you *should* be afraid. Hey Ron! Did you ever point that finger at yourself, and find out who YOU really are? My condolences. Hey Bill! I hear you're really into the Furry lifestyle now! So what is it you like to dress up as? A badger? Maybe a fox or an aardvark? And then you go around humping the furniture, or other fursuit weirdos. Or even animals! You know you really are perverted, sicko. Bill is looking for a good *stable* relationship! MOOOOOOOO!!!

Not really. Freedom has its advantages!