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"HBS6396@Yahoo.com" <hbs6396@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:88438fa6.0306230913.781ed25f@posting.google.c om... Hello all, This is my first post to this group and I do it out of desperation. I find myself without a clue how as to what I should do. My wife and I have been married for 5 years and lived together for 3 years prior to that. I have 2 children from a previous marriage that lived with us until recently (One is now married and the other is in the Army). We've have many problems, but no more than most couples trying to blend a stepfamily.



My wife is 11 years my junior. We both want to have a child of our own and have been trying for the last several years.

If I were you bud, I'd be wearing a condom and even more importantly if she
announces an "oops" I'd be getting a paternity test.
I don't see this marriage surviving regardless of how much counseling is
employed.

Sad but better to move on.

i don't think that having a child at this point would save the marriage. when my husband told me years ago that he wasn't happy, i heard him but didn't know what to do. but now looking back, it was all so simple. whatever you did to get her, you've got to do that and more to keep her. be creative...have a nice picnic on the living room floor; take a day off from work and do everything that she wants to do that day; send her flowers for no readon at all--but by the same token--she should be willing to do the same for you. go to counseling even if you have to go by yourself. you've got to start somewhere. whatever you do, do it quick and in a hurry before it's too late. if you both still love each other, there's no reason why it can't be worked out. i wish you the best of luck.

i don't think that having a child at this point would save the marriage. when my husband told me years ago that he wasn't happy, i heard him but didn't know what to do. but now looking back, it was all so simple. whatever you did to get her, you've got to do that and more to keep her. be creative...have a nice picnic on the living room floor; take a day off from work and do everything that she wants to do that day; send her flowers for no readon at all--but by the same token--she should be willing to do the same for you. go to counseling even if you have to go by yourself. you've got to start somewhere. whatever you do, do it quick and in a hurry before it's too late. if you both still love each other, there's no reason why it can't be worked out. i wish you the best of luck.
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