mbjq@earthlink.net (Emma Anne) writes:
Doug Anderson <ethelthelog@yahoo.com> wrote: Don't you think that if these characteristics present themselves in his marriage, their joint therapist would have pointed this out? Why do you think she hasn't?

'Cause Brian, in spite of his defensiveness and quickness to abusive
anger, seems (to me) to be pretty honest most of the time. And I
think he'd have admitted that was an issue if it was. But maybe I'm
wrong.
Yeah, it is hard for me to believe his quick temper doesn't have ramifications in his marriage, just like it is hard for me to believe that JWB's smugness doesn't have ramifications, or whatever. But I don't see any evidence from anything he's posted that it is actually relevant to the specific problems he has. No, in fact he jumps up and down and screams at us that it has no effect whatsoever. I think he is not seeing reality clearly. BTW, the temper seems like a problem, but it's the defensiveness that really trips my alarms. There is a difference.

Yes, that's true.