Minor Dating Laws In Florida [Archive]

unionwayne

12-18-2004, 02:11 PM

I am dating a 20 year old soon to be 21 and I am 15. We are not have sex we are just dating. What are the laws on this, could he get in trouble? We live in Florida. Will the laws be different when I turn 16? If you could tell me the laws for him being 21 and me being 15 and also the laws of him being 21 and me being 16. Thanks

You are not of the age of consent at 15-years-old. Therefore, your boyfriend is breaking the law if you are having any kind of sex at all. Because you are so young, I'd advise you to wait until you are at least 18-years-old, when you become a legal adult. For more information on consent laws, go to this website: http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/united_states/legal_age_of_consent/index.shtml.

Good luck.

ironmike

04-03-2005, 08:44 AM

Young N worried

06-09-2005, 07:28 AM

Im 16, and my boyfriend is 20, were planning on moving out together soon with in about 7 months, what i want to know is, is this illegal to do in the state of Florida? I have a mother and a father who doesnt like this guy and were engaged but cant get married until i turn 18. Is this illegal? someone please help! i've tryed to look up the info under Florida statue laws ch. 39 and 60 and still found nothing. if anyone has any input please help! :confused:

elklaw

06-09-2005, 08:50 AM

Dating is not illegal, but some types of sexual contact could open him up to criminal liability.
Click on link to teen marriage laws and scroll to FL and see if neighboring states may be better.
http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/united_states/teen_marriage_laws/index.shtml

mandee_2008

06-09-2005, 09:43 AM

Faith08

07-01-2005, 10:37 AM

mandee_2008

07-01-2005, 11:03 AM

I agree with that...i told my mom me and my 20yr old boyfriend were dating and she met him and she doesnt care so i really dont have any problems with dating him...if my mom doesnt care then were fine. My mom thinks hes 1 of the best guys ive ever dated and you know thats a good thing. I guess 1 reason my mom cant really say anything is her and her 1st husband were 19yrs apart and the only reason they arent together anymore is cuz he died! So see even ppl years apart have things in common!

omayris rodriguez

07-03-2005, 03:42 PM

pty

07-03-2005, 10:25 PM

ok i have dating this guy for 2 months alredy. HE is 26 and i am going to be 18 in 5 weeks.My mom has looked up his records and threatened to have him arrested.I graduated from high school and i am going to start college in a month and a half. my boyfriend is a construction worker. I wanted to know if my mom can have him arrested even though i am going to be 18 and he hasnt done anything to me? My mom doesnt approve our relationship.
can she do anything to him
anyhting to him?

Why does she think she can have him arrested? Just because you started dating him when you were 17? And what kind of record does he have? If he's a registered sex offender that's an entirely different thing than being charged with breaking and entering (although that's not good either).

pty

07-03-2005, 11:01 PM

I am a 14 year old girl who is dating a 18 year old guy. I have been dating him for 9 months now and we havent had sex or anything..... but can he get in trouble for dating me??? :confused: I told my mom about him about 3 weeks ago and of course she got upset.... How can i get my mom to realize that we Love eachother...........the age doesnt matter its what you feel inside is that really counts... you see people getting married with people 10 years older than them. why cant we date guys 5 years older then us???? :confused:

Because you're a minor, your parents have the right to decide who you can/can't spend time with. If they say you can't date him, then you can't. I know that's not what you wanted to hear, but that's the bottom line. If he continues to date you without your parents permission, then yeah, he can get in trouble.

I don't really have any suggestions as for how to convince Mom to let you date him. Although I can tell you why she won't allow it. Because he's an adult and you're a child (I'm sure you don't like that term, but there it is). You can date guys 5 older than yourself (but actually 18-14=4 :) )--once you turn 18. In the meantime, maybe once Mom calms down, you could ask if she would agree to 'supervised visitation', as in he visits you at your home when she's there. She might not go for it, but it can't hurt to ask.

Cristi

08-01-2005, 03:14 PM

:confused: I have a friend who is 15 and she is wanting to date a 22 year old. They like each other and all, but what can happen?

elklaw

08-02-2005, 12:19 AM

You are a minor, and he could get arrested for having sex with you. You are not at the age of legal consent.

Badgirl4life

08-04-2005, 07:22 PM

Just bc hes gunna be in the marines does that mean we can't get married when i'm 16? Please help.

ineedadvice

08-05-2005, 10:51 AM

sunshinegurl88

09-04-2005, 02:35 PM

I'm 17 and in about 9 months I will be 18 but im dating this 30 year old guy and i was wondering even though im a minor if i could still date him and if notdo i have to wait until the day i trun 18 to date him again or could i start dating him within like a month or a few weeks before i turned 18

xxmalibu30xx

09-08-2005, 09:34 AM

I am a 14 year old girl who is dating a 18 year old guy. I have been dating him for 9 months now and we havent had sex or anything..... but can he get in trouble for dating me??? I told my mom about him about 3 weeks ago and of course she got upset.... How can i get my mom to realize that we Love eachother...........the age doesnt matter its what you feel inside is that really counts... you see people getting married with people 10 years older than them. why cant we date guys 5 years older then us????

ok, i am having a problem very close to your's, just in reverse, i am the 17 almost 18 year old male, and she is about to turn 14. we are dating, and have never had sex. we have been together for almost 7 months. i jst wanted to know, if there has never been sexual contact, there really isn't anything that i can get in trouble for, is there?

Same here but I had a chat about him to my mom and she said it was fine jsut be upfront and honest about it. she will understand I promise. me and my boyfriend who is 19 now we are just fine we have been dating for 10 months this tuesday ;) well i hope you guys get what you want and oh yea i am only 14 i think these minor laws are stupid we should be able to make our own minds about sex and guys and dating them too it is such a long time way til i am legel.

atomickitten831

10-18-2005, 08:46 AM

pty

10-18-2005, 09:19 AM

(i'm 17 and pregnant by a 20 year old) I love him so much and i plan to marry him as soon as i turn 18. I won't have the baby until i'm 18 so can my parents get him in trouble if they know that we are sexually active?

The laws vary by state. There are some states where the age of sexual consent is 18. If you live in one of those states...the fact that you are 18 when the baby is born won't change the fact that you were 17 when it was conceived.

Johnson Cat

10-19-2005, 12:09 PM

i Kissed a 14 year old guy and my friends are telling me that i will go to Jail cause i'm 18

ShAwTyDuMpTrUk

11-01-2005, 08:00 AM

LoSt&confUSED

11-01-2005, 10:27 AM

im 16 .. in less then a month ill be 17 .. i met a guy thats just turned 22 ...
my mom is fine w/ us going out .. i keep hearing if your a minor u can date within 5 years an adult ... i wasnt sure where the law stood on this ...

isnt being 17 just as good as being 18 if your parents are ok with who ur dating...
this is what i hear ....

can someone inform me please... :confused:

LoSt&confUSED

11-01-2005, 10:37 AM

okay here it goes and plz reply to this okay im 15 and have benn with my boyfriend for a while he is 19 i love him so much and i mean i know his parens they know im pregnant and everything and yeah my mom kniws nuttin about him but the only reason he doesnt really want to have a baby is bc my mom see he is mexican and my mom doesnt believe in interracial relationships. so him and his parents think that my mom will call the cops if she knows who it is well plz tell me bc i heard that if your underage and you are pregnant they cant stop bc how are they gonna take my baby daddy away then how sam i gonna supprt my m=baby please tell me what is uo with that could my mom do that? plz reply aasap

hey there .. i read what u wrote .. n i felt the need to reply .. i dont know much about the law .. but i keep hear the 5 year law .. that if one person is a minor then they have a 5year difference with who ever there dating ... but im not sure .. i would like someone to tell me if thats ture or not ..
im really sorry about your mother's feeling about what your going through ... i hope everything turns out for the better ...
im pretty sure that they cant stop the babys father from seeing his child ... but ur not marryed .. soo maybe they can .. he will have so say...
what ever happenes DONT have an abortion... its the worst thing some one could ever do .. really im not one of those crazy pro - life pple .. but ive been there ... ive seen the before and after ... its a horrible thing to go through ...

i hope everything turns out for the better ..
good luck

ACc083

11-01-2005, 12:54 PM

There are no age restrictions on dating. However, depending on the state that a person lives in, sexual conduct may be unlawful.

ACc083

11-01-2005, 09:00 PM

If you have to ask, then it's too far. :eek:

wnyzfinest

11-02-2005, 04:15 PM

Ok lets set it straight....

Lets Say The Girl is 14 and she is dating an 18 year old Male,, and they live in NJ, The Consent Law in NJ is 16 Years Of Age... In New Jersey the 18Year male would be breaking the law and will have fines and might suffer jail, on top of that might have to register as a sex offender. Now in New Jersey lets say the girl is 16 years old (EXACT! none of that 15years and 6months, must be 16 and 1day at least.) The Girl can go out with a Male not exceeding 21 (Depends on County/Town). Of Course Vise Versa... Now Lets Say the Girl/Male is Under 12Years that is Automatic Rape and can be setanced for up to life in prison.. remember each state is different.. in General if your not 16 yet dont have sex with another person that is over 18. 17 and younger, wouldn't really matter, though it matter with area you live in...

Look if you love the Guy/Girl you wouldnt want to put him/her in this position, of being arrested, put in jail, face heavy fines, might get charges pressed by your parents, YOU HAVE NO WORD.

Remember this is A LAW,, You, Your Parent have no Saying in this,, If your parents say it's ok for you (a 14year old to date a 25year old male) guess what thats against the law still.. It's Love, We love each other, guess what state judge doesnt care... it's not worth it...

Kissy Kissy, dating is not against the law, but it might spark a fire...

wnyzfinest

11-02-2005, 04:17 PM

sexual means, penetrating a sexual organ of either sex..
if you are penetraing the females breats, or viginal/anal area..
oral sex , anal, and regular old sex... also touching is also considered sexual...

Miss Elle

11-02-2005, 06:59 PM

Thanx for the help, I defiantly don't want them to get in trouble! :)

ryanak2006

11-28-2005, 01:07 PM

OK here is the deal, I live in the state of Oregon and need the law relating to this state. ok this is my situation, I am 17 years old and will be 18 in april, my girlfriend is 14 years old I am 3 years and 2 months and 10 days older then her. I know that its illegal for us to do anything when I am 18, I just need to know what we can do? is it illegal for us to be dating? can we have sex etc.

thanks for the fast respons i really need to know, I really love her and neeed to know, thanks.

ACc083

11-28-2005, 03:09 PM

Dating is not illegal.

Sexual conduct is out of the question.
A. 163.315 - Incapacity to Consent states that a person under the age of 18 is considered incapable of consenting to sexual intercourse.
B. 163.415 - Sexual Abuse in the Third Degree states that it is unlawful for a person to engage in sexual conduct with a person who is incapable of consenting to a sexual act because of being under the age of 18.
C. 163.445 - Sexual Misconduct states that it is unlawful for a person to engage in sexual conduct with a person who is under the age of 18 and not that persons spouse.

Non-sexual conduct would be holding hands, hugging, and light kissing. Any form of fellatio, cunninglus, or any touching of the genitals.

ryanak2006

11-28-2005, 07:53 PM

Thanks and just to clarify, we are both under the age to consent so if we were to do something we could bot h be charged?

ShannonEJ

11-28-2005, 09:05 PM

FreshClaro&SenTrom

03-10-2006, 03:06 PM

Im going out with a guy that is 18 and im 14. Somepeople have told me that we can legaly date if I have parents consent is that true

summerchild

03-10-2006, 03:46 PM

ok so ive read a lot of these things and decided it must not be illegal for me and my boyfriend to date....we arent having any sexual intercourse...just kissing and holding hands...hes 20 and im 15 ill be 16 in about 5 1/2 months...so do you think there would be a big problem with us just dating!?

Actually...kissing can be considered a sexual activity if someone wanted to take it to court...learned that at a law thingy i did

Lil Bit 32547

04-14-2006, 10:54 AM

I am dating someone who is younger then me I'm 21 he's 16 and at first his mom was fine with it and know shes trippin we haven't had sex or anything and we really care about each other the flordia age of consent is 16 to 23 am I wrong not to want to leave him can his mom get me in trouble for this? Please help so confused

Calb5

04-14-2006, 01:22 PM

I'm sorry but I have to comment on this- there's nothing wrong with dating someone older when you're young, but then the word love comes into the picture, and the sad thing is you have a lot of years ahead of you before planning permanancy. I realized at 18, when I almost ran away to Vegas to get married, that I haven't had the chance to see and live life yet. Think about it, a few months to a few years down the road, you're at home feeding a baby, your man out having fun with his friends claiming he needs his space, your friends single, out having fun..... Reality sets in and then things aren't as wonderful as you had anticipated..... All you teenage girls out there, look towards the far future, not the near. Because if you're heart gets broken, who will be there? Your parents. If they seem overprotective, then they are doing what they promised, looking out for the well-being of their children.

Kayla017

04-17-2006, 08:45 PM

Kayla017

04-17-2006, 09:11 PM

HAve any of you thought about the term "Child Molester"

The men (age 18 and older) that you are "dating" could be labeld with this term for the rest of thier lives simply by having inappropriate contact with you as children (under 18).

They may have to list themselves as sex offenders!

Think about it...what man in his right mind would want to have sex with a little girl, no matter how mature you are? Something not quite right about that, huh?

If you think you should be allowed to make up your own minds about sex and whatnot at the age of 13 or 14 then you should also have to get your own place, a job, pay all your own bills, maintain your schooling, and REALLY become an adult.

It wouldnt be much fun...

That is why you have parents who have lived longer and know much more than you do.

It is thier job to protect you from becoming a teenage baby maker. And believe me, that is how society will see you...as a jailbait skank.

If your "man" really loves you he will be more than willing to wait until you are of legal age because he wont want you penned with jailbait either.

Trust me, there is nothing fun about dealing with "baby daddy drama" when you are barely out of a training bra yourself!

I do agree with you on that one. I dont think it is right to have sex with a man who is older than 18 with a younger child... If you dont wanna wait till marriage then at least wait till your of age! People do things and after its all done, they regret it. Or god forbid you and him break up and you ran across this guy of your dreams , but he didnt wanna be with sumone who had sex with another man. That just might mess up your chances with them. Cause sex to sum people means a lot! And its important to them.. But if you think you can have sex, then you should do wat a real adult does! Sex is an adult decision, not a child decision!!!!

Make the right choices and wait!!!

pty

04-17-2006, 09:12 PM

Hi, well I'm 16. I'll be 17 July 29th and my boyfriend will be 20 in June. I have good morals and I don't believe in having sex before marriage! So that is no problem for me. But my mother is soo strick on me. I don't drink, smoke, party or anything! I have good morals and i stand my ground! But here lately, I've been thinking about moving out and living with my boyfriend. And I have serciouly looked this up for hours on end.. But I can't seem to find out the facts I need to know. But here is my question. Can i legally move out of my house and live with my boyfriend who has a good paying job and a decent apartment? I'm def. going to stay in school and graduate and go to college and I want to become a cop. And i will, nothing is stopping me from doing that. But i really can't live with my mom anymore. I would go live with my dad... But we recently contacted him, and he doesnt want me. I havent met him in over 13 years. So i quess i can see why he wouldnt want me anymore. I just really need to find ways around the law to be 18 to move out! And by the way, I live in North Carolina. So if anyone can help me, it would be GREATLY appericated!

The age of majority in NC is 18. The NC Juvenile Code states:

Notwithstanding any other provision of law, any juvenile under 18 years of age, except as provided in G.S. 7B-3402 and G.S. 7B-3403, shall be subject to the supervision and control of the juvenile's parents.

The exceptions are juveniles that are married, servicing in the armed forces or have been emancipated by the court.

So the answer is: no, you cannot leave home prior to turning 18 against your mother's wishes unless you are one of the exceptions listed above

As far as emancipation is concerned, no judge is going to emancipate a minor so that she can live with her adult boyfriend. In addition, Mom being 'too strict' is not a valid reason for emancipation. By the way, Mom could be much stricter…she could forbid you from dating this man at all, so be thankful that she allows it and don’t piss her off or she might change her mind about it.

Kayla017

04-17-2006, 09:23 PM

The age of majority in NC is 18. The NC Juvenile Code states:

Notwithstanding any other provision of law, any juvenile under 18 years of age, except as provided in G.S. 7B-3402 and G.S. 7B-3403, shall be subject to the supervision and control of the juvenile's parents.

The exceptions are juveniles that are married, servicing in the armed forces or have been emancipated by the court.

So the answer is: no, you cannot leave home prior to turning 18 against your mother's wishes unless you are one of the exceptions listed above

As far as emancipation is concerned, no judge is going to emancipate a minor so that she can live with her adult boyfriend. In addition, Mom being 'too strict' is not a valid reason for emancipation. By the way, Mom could be much stricter…she could forbid you from dating this man at all, so be thankful that she allows it and don’t piss her off or she might change her mind about it.

Well see my boyfriend is goin to the marines soon! and well mom doesnt even know about him yet!! im too scared to say anything right now. Cause even for me i think 20 is REALLY pushing it! but when i met him, he doesnt even look 20! and he has treated the best out of any guy ive ever dated.. but then again he should..hes had plenty of yrs on earth for this stuff! lol but i mean... yea..but she goes to my friends house after i spend the night with them, and ask their parents if i was there, when did i go to bed, wat was i doing, did i stay in the house all night, when did i get up and all this stuff!! its freaking unreal..and i do try to be open minded cause i know shes tryin to pertect me.. but shes pushing it too far...yet she wants me to tell her everything, which most of all the time i tell her everything..but in the end it comes back and bites me in the butt cause she uses it against me!! BUt shes really pushing me away.. which i havnt givin her a reason to! which of course imma like guys, i cant change that, but i also know im too young to have sex and im really waitin till marriage and she knows this. BUt i know when she was my age..she didnt wait or wat..so i guess she doesnt want me to make the same mistakes she did..but i really do think she needs to losin up on me and let me breathe..just a lil...

am i wrong?

mommyof4

04-18-2006, 06:53 AM

Well see my boyfriend is goin to the marines soon! and well mom doesnt even know about him yet!! im too scared to say anything right now. Cause even for me i think 20 is REALLY pushing it! but when i met him, he doesnt even look 20! and he has treated the best out of any guy ive ever dated.. but then again he should..hes had plenty of yrs on earth for this stuff! lol but i mean... yea..but she goes to my friends house after i spend the night with them, and ask their parents if i was there, when did i go to bed, wat was i doing, did i stay in the house all night, when did i get up and all this stuff!! its freaking unreal..and i do try to be open minded cause i know shes tryin to pertect me.. but shes pushing it too far...yet she wants me to tell her everything, which most of all the time i tell her everything..but in the end it comes back and bites me in the butt cause she uses it against me!! BUt shes really pushing me away.. which i havnt givin her a reason to! which of course imma like guys, i cant change that, but i also know im too young to have sex and im really waitin till marriage and she knows this. BUt i know when she was my age..she didnt wait or wat..so i guess she doesnt want me to make the same mistakes she did..but i really do think she needs to losin up on me and let me breathe..just a lil...

am i wrong?

In your case, I would suggest you find a quiet, calm time to discuss your feelings with your mother in regards to how you feel smothered by her. I'm sure she is probably acting out of her own fear and love for you. If you and she cannot come to a reasonable compromise that you both feel okay with, you might check into going to family counseling. Sometimes a nonpartisan person can see more on both sides of an issue than the two involved in the conflict can and can help find a solution.

As to the boyfriend, I need to tell you that the Marines will not look favorably on his being involved with an underage girl. Military life is pretty strict. Not only would he have to deal with civilian law, but also the UCMJ (Universal Code of Military Justice). If anything were to happen (and sex does not just mean intercourse, in these types of cases) he could face state charges and a military court marshall. Not one or the other, but both. I would suggest you remain friends and keep in touch AS FRIENDS until you are 18. He is risking even more than most right now.

daw57

04-20-2006, 05:16 PM

:confused:
My daughter is 13 years old. A 12 year old friend of hers introduced her to a 20 year old. The 12 year old considered herself to be the girlfriend of a twenty year old and lied at first about her age. After they talked alot and met a few times she decided to tell the truth but they liked each other already. Then she introduced my daughter to a 20 year old friend of her "boyfriend". My daugher lied at first and then finally told the truth. My daughter knows how to "act" and "talk" very mature when it is necessary. The 20 year old said that at that point he liked her so much that he "forgot" about her age.

The 20 year old says that the girls that are his age are too "easy" and "demanding" and he gets along better with my daughter. As a parent, I cannot understand this and I have made them "STOP" this relationship but I am curious to know what the laws are in Florida regarding the fact that they were talking and that he did meet her face-to-face while she was with friends (supposedly) outside in our condo complex (without my permission). :confused: I have no idea what occurred while they were together and if they truly were with her friends. She may have lied about that too.

The boy came and met me to be upfront about the situation. No matter how he explains it to me I cannot understand why he would want to be with a 13 year old girl.

As a parent, I am still too angry to react. I told my daughter that all privileges are taken away until she regains my trust.

I just need an answer about the laws in Florida for this situation. Some people have told me that I should report it to the police. I am not sure what to do except to handle the situation as a parent and to give discipline, consequences, and lots of love.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.
daw57

ceara

04-21-2006, 02:56 AM

mommyof4

04-21-2006, 06:41 AM

missT

04-25-2006, 03:02 PM

ceara

04-25-2006, 08:56 PM

You go write ahead and press charges and you will have one fatherless baby.

Or DON'T press charges and allow this man to go around and impregnate 5 or 6 OTHER CHILDREN.

If the relationship ids considered a crime in your state you have a DUTY to report it. If you don't, WHEN (not if) the truth becomes known, he will STILL be charged AND the police are going to be knocking on YOUR door to find out why you ALLOWED this to happen, because that's how it will be viewed.

sepe79

04-26-2006, 03:48 AM

i have a problem one of my familly member was going out with a guy of 20 years old now he is almost 21 she is only 17 and she they be dating for almost a year. now she is pregnant and we dont now what to do. can we press charges on this guy in the state of Florida. Thanks for you help
Yes, you probably can. But why would want to? FL age of consent is 18. The state may or maynot be interested since there is not much age difference and she is 17. But why would want to make him a sex offender? I assume this was all consenual and it is a loving, healthy relationship. The life of sex offender is hell. And only getting worse. People will assume he molest children because that is what the SOR was for. Of course that is not true now. It will govern where he can live, he may not be able to be a father to the child, it will hender where he can work to support the child and most of all the 17 year old family member may hate you forever. There are better ways to deal with this if this was a consenual and healthy relationship don't you think. You don't say how this girl is related to you, but I think her parents should have a say.

mommyof4

04-26-2006, 06:14 AM

Yes, you probably can. But why would want to? FL age of consent is 18. The state may or maynot be interested since there is not much age difference and she is 17. But why would want to make him a sex offender? I assume this was all consenual and it is a loving, healthy relationship. The life of sex offender is hell. And only getting worse. People will assume he molest children because that is what the SOR was for. Of course that is not true now. It will govern where he can live, he may not be able to be a father to the child, it will hender where he can work to support the child and most of all the 17 year old family member may hate you forever. There are better ways to deal with this if this was a consenual and healthy relationship don't you think. You don't say how this girl is related to you, but I think her parents should have a say.
Well, it is not a healthy relationship. An adult impregnated a minor. If he is such a healthy, wonderful partner, he would have insured that no illegal activity occured.

So now, we have an unwed teenage girl preparing to bring yet another poor child into a situation without the stability of loving, adult parents that the child deserves. Am I saying that the child will not be loved and cared for? Of course not, but that baby's life will be filled with drama and uncertainty stemming solely from a young girl and an adult man that couldn't look far enough ahead to consider the consequences of their actions. That poor baby will be the one to bear the burden.

sepe79

04-26-2006, 02:16 PM

Well, it is not a healthy relationship. An adult impregnated a minor. If he is such a healthy, wonderful partner, he would have insured that no illegal activity occured.

So now, we have an unwed teenage girl preparing to bring yet another poor child into a situation without the stability of loving, adult parents that the child deserves. Am I saying that the child will not be loved and cared for? Of course not, but that baby's life will be filled with drama and uncertainty stemming solely from a young girl and an adult man that couldn't look far enough ahead to consider the consequences of their actions. That poor baby will be the one to bear the burden.

You know Mommyof4 you sure must be the moral police. You have no idea what the relationship is like because you don't know these people. You are a drama queen. Maybe this was not best choice here but he certainly does not deserve to become a sex offender over this. These two are old enough to have this baby and raise it together and live happily everafter. Happens everyday without drama and uncertainty. When your children get a little older you may find they are not the perfect angels you hoped them to be. This relationship can be filled with love and caring. My grandaughter was born to two 17 year old parents. And she was born handicapped, with cerebal palsey. Talk about the cards being stacked against you. But they had love and support of their families. Not judging them for them for their actions. She is now 12 years old and wonderful little girl and happy and a good student. She cannot walk on her own. She's not bearing any burden her young parents put on her.

mommyof4

04-26-2006, 02:29 PM

You know Mommyof4 you sure must be the moral police. You have no idea what the relationship is like because you don't know these people. You are a drama queen. Maybe this was not best choice here but he certainly does not deserve to become a sex offender over this. These two are old enough to have this baby and raise it together and live happily everafter. Happens everyday without drama and uncertainty. When your children get a little older you may find they are not the perfect angels you hoped them to be. This relationship can be filled with love and caring. My grandaughter was born to two 17 year old parents. And she was born handicapped, with cerebal palsey. Talk about the cards being stacked against you. But they had love and support of their families. Not judging them for them for their actions. She is now 12 years old and wonderful little girl and happy and a good student. She cannot walk on her own. She's not bearing any burden her young parents put on her.
All I need to know is that it is illegal. The parents have the right to report it or not, however they see fit, whether you or anyone else thinks the law is unfair. That is all anyone needs to LEGALLY know. Your opinion does not change the law.

Oh, and as to my children not being angels? Your right, I know for sure one of them I am already deciding what I will compromise on and she is only 3! But, I can tell you, that regardless of your opinion, there will be NO illegal relationship tolerated. I will do whatever I have to do to end it, and that includes going to the police even if I have to report both the perpetrator and my child. I have no qualms about grounding my child to my sight at all times if necessary. The thing is that I hope and pray that I have managed to do my job and instilled in them that they are worth so much more than giving themselves away at such a young age. I care that much about my children to ensure that they are able to at least be adults before they drasitically limit the options they have to choose from in life. I believe that judging their actions when they are still young enough to care about my opinion will give them a good foundation for the future when they are in a situation to make their own decisions. Just good old fashioned parenting. I love my children so much that I will not stand idly by and condone everything they do because I don't want their feeling to be hurt or feel judged. The sooner they learn that their actions have consequences and the world DOES judge, the better prepared they are for life.

ceara

04-27-2006, 07:48 AM

missT

04-27-2006, 09:24 AM

ceara

04-27-2006, 09:44 AM

Okay my view is this Education about sex is very importmant. Being there for them and listening to them Being open and having a honest relationship with your child , and unconditional love will prevail and will lead your teens in the write direction to make better choices.

That is not always a realistic solution, especially in cases where a pregnancy has already occurred.

The fact is, if your child is engaged in a relationship that is considered illegal according to your state laws and you, the parent, KNOW about the relationship AND allow the relationship to continue, not only can the person illegally dating the minor be charged with a variety of crimes, so can the PARENT.

Even if the parent is not encouraging the relationship, failure to report such a relationship falls under negligence and conspiracy laws. Parents are considered "mandatory reporters" of any crimes committed against their children. As are schools, hospitals and doctors to name a few. If another "reporting agency" reports the crime[s] against the child and it is determined that the parent[s] would/should reasonably have knowledge of such crimes, that parent is an accomplice to the crime[s].

That is the LAW, plain and simple. Outside of actually changing those laws, there is no way to interpret them to mean anything other than what they are.

missT

04-27-2006, 02:48 PM

That is not always a realistic solution, especially in cases where a pregnancy has already occurred.

The fact is, if your child is engaged in a relationship that is considered illegal according to your state laws and you, the parent, KNOW about the relationship AND allow the relationship to continue, not only can the person illegally dating the minor be charged with a variety of crimes, so can the PARENT.

Even if the parent is not encouraging the relationship, failure to report such a relationship falls under negligence and conspiracy laws. Parents are considered "mandatory reporters" of any crimes committed against their children. As are schools, hospitals and doctors to name a few. If another "reporting agency" reports the crime[s] against the child and it is determined that the parent[s] would/should reasonably have knowledge of such crimes, that parent is an accomplice to the crime[s].

That is the LAW, plain and simple. Outside of actually changing those laws, there is no way to interpret them to mean anything other than what they are.
Thats irrelivent to what I was talking about but thank you for the input.

shaggy730

05-08-2006, 10:15 AM

ceara

05-08-2006, 10:42 AM

my friend is dating a girl that is 5 months pregent and is worried that he is going to get arrested and he is not the father but he is 25 and she will be 16 in less then a week. he wants to marry her and be the father and take all the responabilty what should he do.

Move as far away as possible and forget he ever even MET the girl for the next 2 years. If he still feels the same way after that time, by all means, track her down and marry her. If he continues a relationship it WILL be assumed that he is the father and he WILL be treated as a criminal. By the time the baby is born and the matter rectified, the damage to his reputation will already be done.

mixedmami

05-15-2006, 04:52 PM

xxx I JUST WANTED TO KNOW IF ITS ILLEGAL FOR ME N MY BOYFRIEND OF 1 YR N 3 MONTHS 2 DATE WHEN HE TURNS 18 N JUNE. IM 15 NOW N DONT TURN 16 UNTIL NOVEMBER. SO WE ARE ONLY 2YEARS APART. I NEED SOME ADVICE ON WHAT 2 DO BECAUSE I DONT WANT HIM 2 GET IN TROUBLE.

BooBoo121505

05-16-2006, 03:09 PM

mommyof4

05-16-2006, 03:18 PM

www.locatethelaw.org/statutes.html

Of course, as stated every time these questions are posted, if the minor's parents do NOT give their consent for the child to date the adult (or anybody else, for that matter), then the minor CANNOT be involved in the relationship, no matter what the age of consent is. The final law for a minor is his or her parents.

pty

05-16-2006, 04:01 PM

THIS IS FOR EVERYONE THAT HAVE THE QUESTION ABOUT THE DATING LAW IN THE STATE OF FLORIDA, I HAVE A FRIEND WHO IS AN OFFICER AND HE TOLD ME THE SAME THING I LOOKED UP ONLINE! HERE IT IS

The law for age of consent in florida is 18 and that the definition of "age of legal consent" is the age at which a person may consent to sexual contact with ANY person not in position of authority,etc. HOWEVER, for the sake of argument and clarification, if a person is LESS THE 24 years old, THEY MAY ENTER INTO SEXUAL CONTACT WITH A PERSON WHO IS AT LEAST 16 YEARS OLD.

SO THERE IT IS, I FOUND THE SAME ANSWER ON MANY SITES AND THE SAME ANSWER FROM MANY OFFICERS THAT I ASKED BECAUSE I AM 16 AND MY BOYFRIEND IS 21...

SO THERE YOU GO!

There are no laws regarding dating in any state. There are laws regarding the age of sexual consent. They two different things. Just as the age of majority and the age of sexual consent are two different things. A 16-year-old can date a 50-year-old (God knows WHY they’d want to) if their parents allow them to, but they can’t have sexual contact. On the other hand if a 16-year-old wants to date an 18-year-old but their parents forbid it, then they can’t.

BooBoo121505

05-16-2006, 06:51 PM

There are no laws regarding dating in any state. There are laws regarding the age of sexual consent. They two different things. Just as the age of majority and the age of sexual consent are two different things. A 16-year-old can date a 50-year-old (God knows WHY they’d want to) if their parents allow them to, but they can’t have sexual contact. On the other hand if a 16-year-old wants to date an 18-year-old but their parents forbid it, then they can’t.

16 and 50?? thats tooo far in age difference! my mother is fine with me and my boyfriend and my grandmother is also just as fine, what i posted is what i found on the florida age of consent and dating laws and your right it was about as long as its also okay with the parents/guardians.

*U*R*G*E*D*

06-08-2006, 02:08 PM

ceara

06-08-2006, 09:39 PM

im 16 and my boyfriend is 19 we want to know is it legal for us to date or have sex in the state of florida? with or without my parents approval can they press charges for dating or sexual activities. can my parents throw him in jail just for us dating?

Use the search function. This exact same question has been asked and answered approximately 876,597,044,784,182 times for the state of Florida alone.

mommyof4

06-10-2006, 06:09 AM

im 16 and my boyfriend is 19 we want to know is it legal for us to date or have sex in the state of florida? with or without my parents approval can they press charges for dating or sexual activities. can my parents throw him in jail just for us dating?
I answered this question (one of the times, anyway) in post #59 on this thread. I even put a link to the exact statutes. Read through the thread before you post the exact same question. :)

confused232

06-10-2006, 11:50 AM

im 16 and my boyfriend is 19 we want to know is it legal for us to date or have sex in the state of florida? with or without my parents approval can they press charges for dating or sexual activities. can my parents throw him in jail just for us dating?

I will go ahead and tell you that the age of consent in FL is 16 to engage in sexual contact with persons under the age of 24.

pty

06-10-2006, 07:49 PM

im 16 and my boyfriend is 19 we want to know is it legal for us to date or have sex in the state of florida? with or without my parents approval can they press charges for dating or sexual activities. can my parents throw him in jail just for us dating?

As has been stated over and over again, a minor cannot date anyone without their parents permission.

confused232

06-10-2006, 09:19 PM

As has been stated over and over again, a minor cannot date anyone without their parents permission.

Yes, but I was explaining the sexual consent law. Also, they cannot simply have them thrown in jail. The only way that could happen is if they were able to get a restraining order on the person. Then, only if the restraining order was violated could the person be put in jail. And, even then, the parents would not be the ones to "throw them in jail."

pty

06-11-2006, 01:04 AM

Yes, but I was explaining the sexual consent law. Also, they cannot simply have them thrown in jail. The only way that could happen is if they were able to get a restraining order on the person. Then, only if the restraining order was violated could the person be put in jail. And, even then, the parents would not be the ones to "throw them in jail."

If the minor can’t have contact with the person, then how are they going to have sex? Yes, the parents can get a restraining order. FL also has laws regarding interference with custody. I heard of a case where the parents forbid contact, their child snuck out to the meet Boyfriend, and Boyfriend was charged with (and found guilty) of interference with custody.

Bottom line, as long as you’re a minor, Mom and Dad are in charge.

girllookin4answers2008

07-18-2006, 09:19 AM

.... Ok... someone really needs to answer this question because I'm in that position myself.(i'm 17 and pregnant by a 20 year old) I love him so much and i plan to marry him as soon as i turn 18. I won't have the baby until i'm 18 so can my parents get him in trouble if they know that we are sexually active?

If your parents know that you are sexually active and you are a minor, then they can file for sexual assault, or even rape, so if I was any of y'all I would be really really careful!!!!

girllookin4answers2008

07-18-2006, 09:28 AM

Hi, well I'm 16. I'll be 17 July 29th and my boyfriend will be 20 in June. I have good morals and I don't believe in having sex before marriage! So that is no problem for me. But my mother is soo strick on me. I don't drink, smoke, party or anything! I have good morals and i stand my ground! But here lately, I've been thinking about moving out and living with my boyfriend. And I have serciouly looked this up for hours on end.. But I can't seem to find out the facts I need to know. But here is my question. Can i legally move out of my house and live with my boyfriend who has a good paying job and a decent apartment? I'm def. going to stay in school and graduate and go to college and I want to become a cop. And i will, nothing is stopping me from doing that. But i really can't live with my mom anymore. I would go live with my dad... But we recently contacted him, and he doesnt want me. I havent met him in over 13 years. So i quess i can see why he wouldnt want me anymore. I just really need to find ways around the law to be 18 to move out! And by the way, I live in North Carolina. So if anyone can help me, it would be GREATLY appericated!!

Thanks,
<3 Kayla

Hello Kayla,

If you have good morals then you wouldn't want to move in with your boyfriend. You are supposed to stay away from things that can be percieved as evil, which if you move in with him, people will presume that you and him are having sex. I understand that the mom situation is getting hard, and the whole dad thing, well, i really understand that, but I'm just giving you the facts and letting you know what I think. Hit me up sometime at amberfarrell2008@hotmail.com or yahoo messenger godluver_2008 or AIM PhAtBaByGuRl2008.

<3 Amber

ceara

07-18-2006, 04:15 PM

If your parents know that you are sexually active and you are a minor, then they can file for sexual assault, or even rape, so if I was any of y'all I would be really really careful!!!!

Yet one more example of why minors shouldn't be answering legal questions. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

ok...what now

07-18-2006, 05:48 PM

mommyof4

07-18-2006, 06:05 PM

Ok...what i dont understand is everyone keeps saying in florida the law is "16-24" which i have physically seen online indicating that if you are over the age of 16 and sleeping with someone under the age of 24 (is legal) and your parents can get as pissed as they want to but its pretty much not a sexual offense...now at the same time your saying that if you are a minor your parents can file it as a sexual offense...ok so which is it or is there some gap i seem to be missing here? Yes i am 17 and my boyfriend is 23....so is he at risk of any type of whatever if we were to be sleeping together? I am planning on moving in with him at the end of the year and i did talk to my mother about it and she is allowing it...so i dont know what kind of problems she can pose if she decides that she doesnt want to let me....and yes i am aware that if she says no theres not a lot i can do about it unless i emacipate myself which i would do if i knew how to go about it...but i'll be 18 in 8 months so i figure if i did get an emancipation it would only give me a few months difference so there would really be no point at least from what i've heard it takes a long time and u have to hire an attourney....is that correct? is anyone aware of how long it might take? Because if i could have it done by the end of the year then i'm set i suppose... i've just heard its very hard to because you have to make enough to support yourself completely by yourself and have your own form of transportation and all this other crap...but anyways...yea sorry i'm full of questions lOl.... please let me know

Please disregard the advice posted by girllooking4answers. She needs to look a little longer for the correct information. In Florida, the age of consent is 16, IF the partner is under 24. Otherwise, the official age of consent in Fl is 18. Now, I don't agree with it (I think it is sick that the state thinks it's okay for a 23 year old man to bang a little girl), but that is the LEGAL answer. If your parents have a problem with your relationship, they CAN keep him away from you, whether you have reached the age of sexual consent or not.

You cannot move out of your house until you are 18 if your parents do not give their consent, and NO judge is going to grant emancipation to a girl so that she can live with her boyfriend. In Fl, the parent or guardian must file a petition for emancipation to begin with, so if she is not wanting you to move out, I seriously doubt she is going to file for emancipation for you. Anywho, yes, you do have to be able to support yourself COMPLETELY (no shacking up) and must have an excellent reason as to why it is in your best interest to not be under your parents' control. Emancipation is not going to be an option for you. You also need to be aware that FL does have statutes about living with a person whom you are not married to. While these statutes are not usually used, in this case, they might be, not to mention that your mother could face some very serious questions about her "parenting" choices to allow a teenage girl to move in with her adult boyfriend. We're talking foster care for you. You need to think twice about this, and so does your mother. Even if she does agree to allow you to move out, she will still be financially and legally responsible for you.

ok...what now

07-18-2006, 07:43 PM

Ok....i may come of strong forgive me but you seriously do not no my personal situation as to what goes on in my life so you have no judgement to tell me it is not in my best interest! Yes maybe living with my boyfriend may seem like the reason I want to leave but I have been looking into emancipation since i was 14...if you knew half the crap i have been threw maybe you might think differently....my mother and i had a serious talk and I told her I felt it was in my and our (me and her) interest if I moved out. I have been staying home alone since I was 5 years old...in my mother choosing that way to raise me I have become very independant...I'm mature for my age I dont drink, I dont smoke, I dont do drugs, I work 2 jobs, have received my high school diploma and I have my own car...with the 1700 I make a month I help support my mother as well as take care of my few bills (cell phone house phone insurance internet little things aside from the "rent" my mother charges me)...my sister is 4 years old since she was born I have pretty much been raising her since I was 15 my mother has left a numerous amount of times all weekend leaving me alone with her....she still continues to leave for long periods of time and keep her with me...I dont mind because I've gotten used to it however after all the hours I work to come home cook, clean the house and watch her child is becoming to stressful....especially since we always seem to argue...Now this is jus recent things and yes my boyfriend might be 5 1/2 years older than me but we have a good relationship, my mother loves him and she knows that he is a good guy, and my mother knows I am nothing like she was and that I am mature and responsible enough to handle living my own...and i'm sorry this is a novel and a half but I really disagree with people who judge someone because of their age. Every single person that has met me not knowing how old I am thinks I'm at least 20 or 21 only from the way I conduct myself...so what if I'm young I dont think like a 17 year old...I'm obviously not stupid b/c I'm starting college fall semester I graduated a year early....I make a sufficient amount of money and yes I realize that maybe I am mature but my age is still young for sex...and believe me I was very firm in staying out of that loop... but I fell in love... and I really dont believe love has an age I have seen couples from 2 to 20 years apart and it doesnt make a difference and he has never pushed me into anything i'm not uncomfortable with and he is still with me a year later after a lot of crap we have been through... after he got it from me... he could have easily left but he wants to b with me....but anyway thats jus my opinion

mommyof4

07-19-2006, 08:04 AM

ok...what now

07-19-2006, 08:30 AM

mommyof4

07-19-2006, 08:44 AM

Had you taken the time to read my post... LOOK my mother DOES NOT CARE if i move out...she said YES...NOT NO....YES!! I HAVE her PERMISSION...an dont tell me that I think I'm better than everyone else YOU DONT EVEN KNOW ME...yes I asked for legal advice forgive me for assuming you'd be helpful and polite about it....you've told me nothing I havent heard.... Like I said had you read the post you would know that even BEFORE i met my boyfriend I was looking into emanicpation and i'm 17 not 16 i'll be 18 in 8 months I just wanted to know if it would be a waste of my effort to get emacipated at this point because of the length of time it takes to do it...and not that it is any of your business...my step father abused me when my mother divorced him she became an alcoholic which is why i raise my sister and i've never met my father...yes I realize there are thousands more in my situation but it is really f'd up of you to jump to conclusions about me b/c I'm with an older guy...he IS NOT the reason why i want to move out...but obviously theres really no point in telling you that b/c u dont believe that anyhow...but honestly i couldnt care less what you think....oh and thanks for all of the legal advice....i'll jus call an attourney

Noooo, you asked if your mother changed her mind and said NO, could you get emancipated. I told you no, because IF SHE CHANGES HER MIND SHE IS NOT GOING TO BE WILLING TO SGIN A PETITION TO BEGIN PROCEEDINGS FOR EMANCIPATION. You seem to be missing the point that you cannot emancipate yourself. Your parens or legal guardian must file on your behalf.

www.bostoncoop.net/lcd/emancipation/florida.html (http://www.bostoncoop.net/lcd/emancipation/florida.html)

I am answering your questions based on the possibility that she will decide not to let you move. I already told you that you CAN move out with her consent, but if ANYBODY has a problem with it, be prepared to answer some very tough questions. So, who is going to watch your sister if you move out and your mother is drunk all of the time? Again, the answer is no, you will not be emancipated before you turn 18. I'm sorry you don't like the answer, but that is the only one you will get.

ceara

07-19-2006, 02:19 PM

Had you taken the time to read my post... LOOK my mother DOES NOT CARE if i move out...she said YES...NOT NO....YES!! I HAVE her PERMISSION...an dont tell me that I think I'm better than everyone else YOU DONT EVEN KNOW ME...yes I asked for legal advice forgive me for assuming you'd be helpful and polite about it....you've told me nothing I havent heard.... Like I said had you read the post you would know that even BEFORE i met my boyfriend I was looking into emanicpation and i'm 17 not 16 i'll be 18 in 8 months I just wanted to know if it would be a waste of my effort to get emacipated at this point because of the length of time it takes to do it...and not that it is any of your business...my step father abused me when my mother divorced him she became an alcoholic which is why i raise my sister and i've never met my father...yes I realize there are thousands more in my situation but it is really f'd up of you to jump to conclusions about me b/c I'm with an older guy...he IS NOT the reason why i want to move out...but obviously theres really no point in telling you that b/c u dont believe that anyhow...but honestly i couldnt care less what you think....oh and thanks for all of the legal advice....i'll jus call an attourney

No one "jumped to conclusions". People need to pull their head out of their *** long enough to realize that CORRECT LEGAL answers aren't personal. It makes no difference what you, me or anyone else THINKS about the law. It is what it is. You can have all of the foot stomping hissyfits you want and it won't change the LAW.

The thing is, your mother CAN'T give you permission to BREAK THE LAW. Even if she initiates the emancipation proceedings, the judge will do what SHE or HE feels is in your best interests. Considering that your mother is an alcoholic, not only will your request almost certainly be denied, your sister will end up in foster care.

pink_ice_rules

07-29-2006, 07:16 AM

Im going out with a guy that is 18 and im 14. Somepeople have told me that we can legaly date if I have parents consent is that true
if your parents say it is ok then you are fine (as faire as i now) but if you want to have sex you will need to talk to your parents if they say no then don't do it because that he can get in trouble...... i hope that helps you good luck :)

mommyof4

07-29-2006, 07:48 AM

if your parents say it is ok then you are fine (as faire as i now) but if you want to have sex you will need to talk to your parents if they say no then don't do it because that he can get in trouble...... i hope that helps you good luck :)
Umm, even if her parents say "Yes, and here is the condom and we rented you a room. ENJOY!!!", she cannot have sex with him. A parent cannot give consent or compel his or her child to commit an unlawful act. As a matter of fact, not only would the boyfriend face charges, so could her parents. Dating is one thing. There are no laws against DATING. Sexual activity is a whole different animal.

tay91190

07-29-2006, 06:00 PM

cyjeff

07-29-2006, 06:03 PM

ceara

07-29-2006, 07:44 PM

hi, my situation is that i am seein a guy who is 18...and i will be 16 in a month...we havent done ne thing sexual...is there ne way that he could get in trouble if we are datin but not havin any kind of sex? could my parents press charges even if he did nothing and we havnt had any form of sex or would i have to press the charges?

For the 958,648,179,158,186 time, NO ONE other then the prosecutor and a grand jury can PRESS CHARGES against ANYONE! However, anyone that feels that a crime is, may be, has or may have occurred CAN file a report and/or complaint with the authorities that will be investigated. IF the prosecutor's office feels that there is enough evidence to support a conviction, they can then file charges against the person or bring the evidence to a grand jury.

ANY relationship involving a person OVER the age of 18 AND a person UNDER the age of 18 has the potential to result in criminal charges. The ONLY exception would be if the minor was emancipated. And NO, you CANNOT be emancipated because your parents are mean and won't let you date an adult. Even if there are other valid reasons to grant emancipation, you will NOT be emancipated if part of your plan is to shack up with the adult that you are in a relationship with. One of the requirements is that you be 100% SELF supportive.

These rules apply to EVERY SINGLE PERSON! No matter how much YOU believe that YOUR situation is unique and deserves "special consideration", IT'S NOT! Don't bother trying to argue this point. Trust me, we have heard every imaginable excuse before. YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL.

FSUdogislandQT

07-30-2006, 08:35 PM

cyjeff

07-31-2006, 04:38 AM

I have been dating my boy friend for 2 years now. I am 17 and he is turning 18 in a few months. We are concerned with what restrictions there are on us once he turns 18. I have searched the internet and am still confused. Is is basically that we cannot have sex? Now say i consent to it, and parents know about it (just saying...) and we r caught somehow by like the police. (parents wouldn't press charges) can he still be charged with whatever the charge is even though no one would press charges? He says yes to this, but i don't believe it. But i also just want to know the law put in basic terms, or somewhere where i can access it. Thanks to anyone that can help me become less confused.

Here we go again...

Okay, first, parents don't press charges, the DA does.

Second, your parents can not give you permission to break the law.

Third, anyone that sees an illegal act or the evidence that an illegal act has occurred is law bound to report it.

And, to be honest, your consent means nothing. If you are asking about statutory rape, it is a law that says you don't know enough because of your age to make a rational decision where sex is concerned.

check out www.promotetruth.org for the actual laws.

mommyof4

07-31-2006, 06:23 AM

ceara

07-31-2006, 07:02 PM

Just a random, nonlegal thought....have any of your girls considered the fact that when he throws up the whole it's illegal for us to be together after dating for 2 YEARS that maybe, just maybe...he is just looking for a way out of the relationship without having to actually say I don't want to date you anymore???

That does not change the legalities of the situation. I just find it odd that nobody ever thought of any of this in the 2 years you have been dating. If your parents do not have any problem with you two dating, and HE doesn't have any problem with dating, then fine. But dating is NOT sex. Sex is a different subject. If he says it's illegal to DATE, he maybe trying to tell you something else, entirely.

Actually, I think that MOST guys bring it up in order to get the girl in bed FASTER, especially when the girl is between 13-16. Girls this age are much more likely to think that a "forbidden love" is romantic and exciting.

For the most part, there is no "dating" in these relationships in the first place. These older guys have no intention on taking these little girls out on an actual DATE, ever. They want to hang out or meet up at a location, go for a quick roll in the hay and then leave. They are smart enough to know that they have nothing in common with these girls and they don't want a relationship or even a friendship with them.

The reason that they get away with it is because these young girls aren't mature enough to realize it's all just a scam. They fall for the whole, "we can't go OUT in public because we're not supposed to date and I could go to jail".

To ANY girls out there that hears this line, remember, if you are that special to them, they'll wait until you are 18.

Dave_Matthews

08-07-2006, 04:05 PM

Hi i am 19 and have recently been introduced to a girl that is 14 years and 7 months old. The first time i met her i felt a strong sense of attraction to everything about her, she has a great personality and makes me feel great to be around. I would never dream of having any kind of sex with her because of her age and the fact that she is a minor. But i cant help feeling closer and closer to her all the time. I have got to know her quite well and she has had a terrible life, she lives with just her mum who is a drug addict and always has very dodgy characters in the house. One day i was inside this girls dads house (im a friend of her brother and she has been staying in this house as she dosent see her father much now) and he kept winding her up until she exploded and started to hit him, he headbutted her and she ran out the room. When i found her, she was crying and had started to cut herself on her wrists. I helped her to clean it up and everything, she then showed me some other scars on her arms. Ever since this incident i have made it my business to ensure she no-longer gets treated badly or feels bad about herself and she has started to feel happier, and has promised me she wont do it again. I have started to see her more and more often aswell, we are now at the stage where we both want to officially start dating. We have kissed and cuddled, but thats as far as its gone and as far as id allow until she was 16. Could you please tell me if i am doing a bad thing here? and if there are any laws that state i cannot have a non-sexual relationship with this girl.
We both made the decision to keep it to ourselfs for the time being, because of how other people would see things, and how id get judged. It just seems to me that we have both found what we were missing in our lives. I have been looking for somebody to give my love and care to without getting hurt (3 bad relationships already) and i cannot get this girl off my mind, nor do i want to. She told me that she is happy to have found me and that she wants to keep me as nobody has ever cared for her properly before. Any feedback would be great, im not sure what to do about everything and i am very confused as even i myself think that 14 is a bit to young really, but for me this is different. When im with her or when im thinking about her, i dont see her age, only how much i care about her.

Thanks Dave

mommyof4

08-07-2006, 04:14 PM

Okay, when you look at her imagine a huge, neon 14 on her forehead. Then imagine yourself looking out at the corridor through vertical bars. If she is being abused, contact CPS. If she needs psychological help and support, provide her with numbers to people that can help her. Your place is not to rescue her. It is to recognize that this CHILD is being abused, and you have a duty to alert the authorities. When she is 18 and (hopefully) mentally stable and mature enough to handle a loving, EQUAL relationship, then she can date you. It is not fair to her to be in this position. She is in a very vulnerable state. Not only are you risking sexual offense charges because of her age, you are also risking charges because of her diminished mental and emotional state. BTW, sexual activity is NOT limited to sexual intercourse.

Dave_Matthews

08-07-2006, 04:30 PM

mommyof4

08-07-2006, 04:49 PM

I can see exactly where your coming from about her age and everything else. Its just after being the only person out of about 8 people (who were in the room) to help her and actually talk to her about why she cuts herself, i just want to help her to be happy. After leaving the house after seeing the cuts and all the blood, i couldnt sleep for awhile as it bothered me deeply that anyone could actually be that emotionally hurt to physically inflict damage on themselves like this. I just wanted to help her and so i spent alot of time with her, as she started to seem happier, so did i. Now i feel attatched to her and dont know what to do. I know she is too young and have to admit feel a bit wrong about it all. But i dont want her to hurt herself anymore, and i seem to be the only thing that makes her happy.

Okay, aside from the legal advice I gave you, I am going to give you some personal insight and advice. You cannot make anybody happy for very long. She has to learn to make HERSELF "happy". (FYI, nobody is always happy. A person has to be sad to recognize when they are "happy"). If she is solely dependent on you for her emotional support, what happens if you get hit by a bus tomorrow? She needs help that you are in no way qualified to give her. Nobody is saying you can't care about her and her well being. I AM saying that you cannot save her. Do you really want to live life with the pressure and burden of another person's soul? Contact CPS about the abuse. Here are some hotline numbers to give to her so that she can start to help herself. If she is not willing to try to get help for herself, there is absolutely nothing that you can do to help her.

1-800-422-4453 (childhelp USA)

1-800-272-TEEN

and, a link with multiple numbers for all different sorts of situations.

www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html (http://www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html)

cyjeff

08-07-2006, 08:46 PM

Unless you are the world's youngest psycotherapist, you don't know what she needs to be well.

Sure, you can see a problem. Heck, you can probably see some of her problems from space.

You are not in a position to help her. You are not qualified to judge how to heal her, and you may find yourself facing jail time for trying.

Call CPS and leave it to the pros.

Dave_Matthews

08-08-2006, 02:28 AM

Ok thankyou for all the help, i will take your advice and get her help from a professional. I never wanted to cause harm, just to help. But i understand that it would be impossible for me to make everything right for her, i have no experience or training in this so a professional would be better

Thanks Dave

pablo21

09-03-2006, 09:48 AM

confused232

09-03-2006, 01:32 PM

OK my friend is 17 turning 18 in about 6 months. We live in miami florida. He has been dating a 30 year old lady for the past 4 months. His family and friends know and are okay with this relationship. Is this illegal or legal and what are the penaltys for this?

It's NOT legal. The age of consent in Florida to have sex with anyone 24 or over is 18. It does NOT matter if his parents approve. I'm not sure exactly what the penalty is, but I know it's a felony with the possibility of many years in prison.

turbowray

09-03-2006, 02:08 PM

Since the woman is over 24, this is very illegal! I can not find where it states the penalties for such an act. I do know now, that a lawyer could sue a rapist for counseling, on top of the criminal charges.

cyjeff

09-03-2006, 02:50 PM

The next question is the relationship between the two. Is the 30 year old in a position of authority over the 17 year old?

wrestler101

09-27-2006, 12:55 PM

I am 16 and am dating a 18 year old. my parents are ok with it since there is only a 2 year difference. we were dating before he turned 18.. and now that hes 18 can he get into trouble in the state of florida? i would appreciate a respond back.

thank you

confused232

09-27-2006, 06:33 PM

flfisher

10-10-2006, 10:06 AM

mommyof4

10-10-2006, 10:18 AM

I posted this in a different thread, but afterwards I realized the thread hadnt been touched in months by anyone else.

I am 20 years old, and have been dating a 16 year old girl for nearly a year. We havent had sex, and we have no intentions to do so. When we started dating, her parents loved me. After several months they decided we couldnt see or speak to each other anymore. They had not realized that we were dating "exclusively" and they dont approve of her being in an exclusive relationship. Her mother tried to work with us for a long while, but her dad wouldnt budge and eventually momma stopped trying. Now I'm lucky if I get to talk to her once a month by sneaking phone calls to each other. Do I have any legal grounds to still try to see her, or are we at the mercy of her parents? If so, will any of that change when she turns 17?
Yes, you are at the mercy of her parents. They have the control over who her daughter associates with. When she is 18 and on her own, she will get to make that decision for herself. Until that time, you abide by her parents' wishes.

turbowray

10-10-2006, 06:30 PM

I posted this in a different thread, but afterwards I realized the thread hadnt been touched in months by anyone else.

I am 20 years old, and have been dating a 16 year old girl for nearly a year. We havent had sex, and we have no intentions to do so. When we started dating, her parents loved me. After several months they decided we couldnt see or speak to each other anymore. They had not realized that we were dating "exclusively" and they dont approve of her being in an exclusive relationship. Her mother tried to work with us for a long while, but her dad wouldnt budge and eventually momma stopped trying. Now I'm lucky if I get to talk to her once a month by sneaking phone calls to each other. Do I have any legal grounds to still try to see her, or are we at the mercy of her parents? If so, will any of that change when she turns 17?

The reason why the dad won't budge is because at 15 (which is when you started to date), he knew that that is to young to become commited to anyone, expecially someone who is as old as you are. Sorry, but I agree, you should wait until she has the opportunity to see boys her own age, and then if she still wants to see you when she is 18, then you will know 100% that she truely loves you, not just because of her nieve age.

pregnant89

10-26-2006, 09:05 AM

I'm 17 years old, My boyfriend is 20 years old, and I'm pregnant...

We have had sexual intercourse, and both our parents know. They're going to support the baby and my mom will sign the marriage consent forms in December... is it still illegal?:confused:

turbowray

10-26-2006, 10:40 AM

pregnant89

10-26-2006, 11:31 AM

turbowray

10-26-2006, 04:35 PM

I'm in Florida... and i really appreciate it... my class is having me research on dating laws and getting personal stories... so I was thinking if I put the situation I'm in, then I could print it out without getting anybodies business into a public school other than my own.

If the older of the two is under 24, then the age of sexual consent is 16. Please keep in mind, there are other laws to consider, and the parents wishes as well. They can obtain a restraining order against the 20 year old, until you are 18.

tiff_babygurl56

10-30-2006, 01:20 PM

OKay, so I live in ohio and I'm 16 going o be 17 on May 5th 2007. I'm lesbian and I am dating at 19 year old who is going to be 20 June 13 2007. Is it illegal if we are just dating, and not having ANY type of sexual contact? Could she and or me get into trouble?
I mean I know it's illegal to have a sexual relationship with her, but what are the laws for a 17 year old dating a 20 year old in ohio?

Please help, I just want to know. Thanks again.

cyjeff

10-30-2006, 01:33 PM

duplicate post.

DanaUrsula

10-30-2006, 07:35 PM

My friend is 16 and she recently started talking to a guy that was 23. Theyve only kissed, what are the laws on this.

turbowray

10-30-2006, 07:46 PM

My friend is 16 and she recently started talking to a guy that was 23. Theyve only kissed, what are the laws on this.

What state does she live in? Did they meet on the internet?

DanaUrsula

10-31-2006, 12:12 PM

They live in florida, and they met through work

turbowray

10-31-2006, 03:48 PM

According to the laws, if the man is under 24, then the age of sexual consent is 16. Once this man turns 24, then he can not touch her until she turns 18. The parents may also put a restraining order against him, and he could get in trouble at work because of this, maybe even fired.

MELISSA6969

11-16-2006, 04:16 AM

YOU ALL MIGHT THINK YOUR IN LOVE WITH THESE MEN, BUT TRUST ME THERE ONE IN A MILLION........YOU HAVE NO EXPERIENCE WITH LOVE SO EXPLAIN HOW DO YOU KNOW YOUR IN LOVE....????? YOU DONT, SO DONT WASTE YOUR LIVES ON A GROWN MAN WHO CANT FIND SOMEBODY HIS OWN AGE....WHY IS HE WITH A CHILD, BECAUSE HE CAN CONTROL YOU, TELL YOU WHAT TO DO, WHEN YOU GO HOME, WHERE DO YOU THINK HE GOES, I PROMISE YOU ITS NOT HOME AND WHEN YOUR NOT MAKING LOVE TO HIM DONT YOU THINK HES GETTING IT SOMEWHERE ELSE....OF COURSE HE IS, DONT BE THE FOOL....YOUR YOUNG, BEAUTIFUL AND FULL OF LIFE DONT WASTE IT WORRYING ABOUT A MAN, ENJOY LIFE, HANG WITH YOUR GIRL/BOY FRIENDS, BE HAPPY, DO GOOD IN SCHOOL AND BE YOURSELVES AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT THINGS THAT JUST SHOULDNT AND DONT MATTER AS A KID!!!!! TAKE MY ADVISE AS IVE BEEN THERE AND WISH I COULD GO BACK, BUT YOU CANT!!!!!!;) ;) :eek:

MELISSA6969

11-16-2006, 04:18 AM

MELISSA6969

11-16-2006, 04:22 AM

The reason why the dad won't budge is because at 15 (which is when you started to date), he knew that that is to young to become commited to anyone, expecially someone who is as old as you are. Sorry, but I agree, you should wait until she has the opportunity to see boys her own age, and then if she still wants to see you when she is 18, then you will know 100% that she truely loves you, not just because of her nieve age.

THERE IS REALLY NO LAW THAT PREVENTS YOU IN FLORIDA FROM SEEING HER, DATING HER, OR WHATEVER YOU WANT....IT SEEMS AS THERE IS BUT FROM EXPERIENCE UNLESS THE MINOR GIVES A STATMENT TO POLICE THERE IS NOTHING THE PARENTS CAN DO...SAD BUT TRUE....SO IF YOU THINK YOUR REALLY IN LOVE, GO FOR IT....TRUE LOVE ONLY COMES ONCE.....TAKE IT FROM SOMEONE WHO KNOWS......:D

mommyof4

11-16-2006, 05:11 AM

turbowray

11-16-2006, 11:21 AM

I second that, posters, I know we don't say what you want to hear, but we speak the truth, and on the consequences. Please google this information, you will see that we are telling the truth!!

turbowray

11-16-2006, 11:23 AM

As Far As The Law, Dont Bother, We Went To The State Attorneys Office And Without A Statement From The Minor, They Will Do Nothing About A 28 Yo Having Sex And Getting A 15 Yo Pregnant, So The Law May Seem To Read One Way, But Trust Us Its Not As It Seems.....so Florida Stinks.......what Kind Of Place Allows A Little Girl To Get Pregnant By A Man And Does Nothing About It.......???sick If You Ask Me......
By law, the attending physician sees a minor of this age, and knows that it is illegal for anyone to get her pregnant, he has to turn her in. PLease, give me the name of this states attorney worker, and I will see to it personally, that he gets in trouble for making such a false statement (unless it is a lie).

MELISSA6969

11-17-2006, 03:58 AM

You are so very, very wrong. Please do not come on here and give illegal advice. Just think...someone could take your "advice" and get busted. Would you feel any guilt? You should. If you wouldn't, you have deeper issues that need to be worked on.

MAYBE YOU SHOULD CONTACT AUTHORITIES, STATE ATTORNEY, POLICE DETECTIVES ,ETC AND FIND OUT THE FACTS AND THEN GIVE POEPLE REAL ADVISE NOT JUST WHAT SEEMS RIGHT IN YOUR WORLD, BECAUSE UNFORTUNATLY FOR US WE HAVE AND THATS A REAL STORY OF TO WHAT HAPPENED, AND AGAIN NON OF US ARE ATTORNEYS, THIS SITE IS BY EXPERIENCE AND TRUE LIFE.......SO AS I SAID THERE IS NOTHING A PARENT CAN DO TO A 16 YO IN FLORIDA UNLESS THE MINOR COOPERATES......ITS A FACT LIKE IT OR NOT....THE LAW DOES NOT READ THAT WAY BUT IT GOES BY CASE LAW AND PREVIOUS CASES HAVE BEEN TREATED THAT WAY SO WILL FUTURE CASES.....AND TO YOUR COMENT OF DO I FEEL GUILT? NO I DONT FEEL GUILT FOR TELLING THE FACTS OF WHAT HAPPENED IN REAL LIFE TO US........AND MAYBE YOU HAVE DEEPER ISSUES CUZ TRUST ME HONEY YOUR LIVING IN A DREAM WORLD IF YOU THINK THE REAL WORLD GOES BY WHATS RIGHT AND WRONG, THE QUESTION SHOULD HAVE BEEN DO I AGREE WITH IT AND HELL NO I DONT, I THINK THESE ADULT MEN THAT SLEEP OR DATE BABYS SHOULD GO DIRECTLY TO JAIL AND THROW AWAY THE KEY AND THATS WHY WEVE TRIED SO HARD TO GET THIS TO HAPPEN, THIS GUY EVEN PUT HIS NAME ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE AND THE STATE ATTORNEY WILL DO NOTHING...........SO THANKS FOR YOUR COMMENTS.....!!!!

mommyof4

11-17-2006, 05:55 AM

Or, better yet, maybe those concerned should present the state statutes to the authorities and demand they follow the law. I find it ironic that you say that there is nothing that will be done, yet there are thousands of adults sitting in prison convicted on the very statutes you say do not exist. There has to be much, much more to this. I second Turbo...report the doctor for NOT reporting that he was treating a pregnant child, and the parents need to file a report.

Hey, I know....why don't you ask Xena what to do. Her son was convicted (he was 18 and she was 15). Furthermore, the 15 year old's parents condoned the relationship. He lived with them. And, oh yeah, she's from Florida.

cyjeff

11-17-2006, 07:18 AM

And, by all that is Holy, stop posting in all caps. Not only is it rude, but it makes your posts even HARDER to follow.

Oh, and sentence structure and the occaisonal period and paragraph break are your friends.

turbowray

11-17-2006, 07:53 PM

MAYBE YOU SHOULD CONTACT AUTHORITIES, STATE ATTORNEY, POLICE DETECTIVES ,ETC AND FIND OUT THE FACTS AND THEN GIVE POEPLE REAL ADVISE NOT JUST WHAT SEEMS RIGHT IN YOUR WORLD, BECAUSE UNFORTUNATLY FOR US WE HAVE AND THATS A REAL STORY OF TO WHAT HAPPENED, AND AGAIN NON OF US ARE ATTORNEYS, THIS SITE IS BY EXPERIENCE AND TRUE LIFE.......SO AS I SAID THERE IS NOTHING A PARENT CAN DO TO A 16 YO IN FLORIDA UNLESS THE MINOR COOPERATES......ITS A FACT LIKE IT OR NOT....THE LAW DOES NOT READ THAT WAY BUT IT GOES BY CASE LAW AND PREVIOUS CASES HAVE BEEN TREATED THAT WAY SO WILL FUTURE CASES.....AND TO YOUR COMENT OF DO I FEEL GUILT? NO I DONT FEEL GUILT FOR TELLING THE FACTS OF WHAT HAPPENED IN REAL LIFE TO US........AND MAYBE YOU HAVE DEEPER ISSUES CUZ TRUST ME HONEY YOUR LIVING IN A DREAM WORLD IF YOU THINK THE REAL WORLD GOES BY WHATS RIGHT AND WRONG, THE QUESTION SHOULD HAVE BEEN DO I AGREE WITH IT AND HELL NO I DONT, I THINK THESE ADULT MEN THAT SLEEP OR DATE BABYS SHOULD GO DIRECTLY TO JAIL AND THROW AWAY THE KEY AND THATS WHY WEVE TRIED SO HARD TO GET THIS TO HAPPEN, THIS GUY EVEN PUT HIS NAME ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE AND THE STATE ATTORNEY WILL DO NOTHING...........SO THANKS FOR YOUR COMMENTS.....!!!!

I work in a hospital, and many children have been taken away from the young mom, because of these situations. The doctors that I work with WOULD AND HAVE turned in these types of situations. I speak out of EXPERIENCE AND KNOWLEDGE ON THIS ISSUE, NOT OUT OF MY BUTT! I am very glad though that you said that you do not agree with this. Instead of telling young woman to go for it, you should be an advocate, to stop it. I put a man in jail for rape, and I would do it again and again. You still have not provided me with the names of the worker(s) in that office that told you that. I mean what I say, when I will personally make sure they get in trouble for this.

MELISSA6969

11-20-2006, 04:16 AM

By law, the attending physician sees a minor of this age, and knows that it is illegal for anyone to get her pregnant, he has to turn her in. PLease, give me the name of this states attorney worker, and I will see to it personally, that he gets in trouble for making such a false statement (unless it is a lie).

I WILL DEFINATLY GET YOU THE INFO.....BECUZ TRUST ME WE HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING, THAT IS WHY WE WENT IN PERSON TO THE STATE ATTY'S OFFICE INSTEAD OF CALLING AND TALKING TO SOME DIMWHIT....HE WAS THERE FOR 3 HOURS AND FINALLY WAS THROWN OUT WHEN HE GOT PRETTY UPSET....THE FACTS ARE THE BOY IS 28 AND THE GIRL IS NOW 16 WAS 15 WHEN SHE GOT PREGNANT, SHE IS A RUNAWAY, WE DONT KNOW EXACTLY WHERE SHE IS, SHE HAS HAD THE BABY AND THE FATHERS NAME IS ON THE BIRTH CERT, WE WERE TOLD WAIT TILL SHE HAS THE BABY THEN DNA, YEAH RIGHT, NOW NOTHING, ITS VERY ANNOYING, ANOTHER GREAT FACT IS THE FATHER OF THE 16 YO IS A COP AND HE IS ABOUT TO LOSE HIS COOL WITH THIS GUY, HE WENT TO MEET THEM IN MIAMI CUZ SHE NEEDED $ FOR PRESCRIPTION AND THE GUY, PUSHED HIM AND KNOCKED HIM DOWN, THE DAD CALLED THE COPS AND ANOTHER DEAD END, THEY SAID "OH SORRY WE DONT ARREST PEOPLE FOR MISDEAMENORS" FLORIDA SUCKS......HELP....HELP....:mad:

turbowray

11-22-2006, 06:21 AM

I WILL DEFINATLY GET YOU THE INFO.....BECUZ TRUST ME WE HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING, THAT IS WHY WE WENT IN PERSON TO THE STATE ATTY'S OFFICE INSTEAD OF CALLING AND TALKING TO SOME DIMWHIT....HE WAS THERE FOR 3 HOURS AND FINALLY WAS THROWN OUT WHEN HE GOT PRETTY UPSET....THE FACTS ARE THE BOY IS 28 AND THE GIRL IS NOW 16 WAS 15 WHEN SHE GOT PREGNANT, SHE IS A RUNAWAY, WE DONT KNOW EXACTLY WHERE SHE IS, SHE HAS HAD THE BABY AND THE FATHERS NAME IS ON THE BIRTH CERT, WE WERE TOLD WAIT TILL SHE HAS THE BABY THEN DNA, YEAH RIGHT, NOW NOTHING, ITS VERY ANNOYING, ANOTHER GREAT FACT IS THE FATHER OF THE 16 YO IS A COP AND HE IS ABOUT TO LOSE HIS COOL WITH THIS GUY, HE WENT TO MEET THEM IN MIAMI CUZ SHE NEEDED $ FOR PRESCRIPTION AND THE GUY, PUSHED HIM AND KNOCKED HIM DOWN, THE DAD CALLED THE COPS AND ANOTHER DEAD END, THEY SAID "OH SORRY WE DONT ARREST PEOPLE FOR MISDEAMENORS" FLORIDA SUCKS......HELP....HELP....:mad:

I still need the name, and have you contacted a childrens advocacy center in your area? They may know channels, that you do not?

florida_times

12-24-2006, 09:19 PM

I know someone who wants to date a 17 year old and the guy is 25. Would the guy need the parents permission to go out with her?
Thanks

cyjeff

12-25-2006, 06:01 AM

I know someone who wants to date a 17 year old and the guy is 25. Would the guy need the parents permission to go out with her?
Thanks

Yes. Until she is 18, her parents make the rules.

mommyof4

12-26-2006, 06:50 AM

And even if her parents allow him to date her, there can be no sexaully stimulating contact until she reaches the age of 18. Florida is real serious about this.

supernovacy

12-28-2006, 05:16 PM

turbowray

12-28-2006, 06:44 PM

cyjeff

12-28-2006, 08:11 PM

okay, so I'm 15 & my boyfriend is 19. on March 10th [about 3 months] I'll be 16, and he'll be turning 20 in July.
When I'm 16, is it illegal for us to date? We're not having sex, nor do we plan on ever having sex before marriage.
If I date him when I'm 16, is there anything my mom can do/anything illegal about it?
Thanks! :)

-caitie

If mom says no, the answer is no.

Why would you believe a parent would need law to keep you apart? Luckily, in almost all jurisdictions... including Florida... there are a host of laws to help.

Basically, unless the closest to sex you two get is a longing glance across a crowded room in front of your parents, he can be charged.

As turbo stated... no touching of any kind, no hugging, kissing, groping or fondling... no talking, texting, emailing about sexual or physical contact of any kind.

And, if you mom REALLY hates the idea, see the above reference to a restraining order which will mean that any contact initiated by either of you sends your adult friend to prison.

Basically, everything is against you and you lose.

Please don't bother posting how much you love him and how he would never ever touch you. The reason he is dating a child is because you don't know any better than to believe him.

iamakuty4u

01-26-2007, 03:53 PM

My best frined is 16yrs old and her bf is 24.. can she get in trouble? im scared for him and her!

mommyof4

01-26-2007, 03:54 PM

My best frined is 16yrs old and her bf is 24.. can she get in trouble? im scared for him and her!
SHE won't get in trouble (outside of her parents' punishment) but her boyfriend will be in a world of hurt. Ask Xena.

turbowray

01-26-2007, 04:50 PM

My best frined is 16yrs old and her bf is 24.. can she get in trouble? im scared for him and her!

Chances are, yes HE CAN, but for argument sake, what state does your friend live in, and where does he live (if not in the same state)?

iamakuty4u

01-26-2007, 08:38 PM

they both live in fl.. i heard that it is leagal for them to date?!?! in someones law studies class at school it said that a 16 yr old can date a 24 yr old.. so we were confused!! help?

mommyof4

01-26-2007, 08:52 PM

Sure, they can date as long as her parents are okay with it and he and she engage in behavior that is no more stimulating than a hardy handshake. As she is 16 and he is 24, the affirmative defense that "protects" (is put that in quotations, because if you read any of Xena's posts about her son, you will see that it is a joke) would not apply. He would have to be UNDER 24. If her parents say absolutely not, then that's it. He can find a grown woman or he can wait for 2 years until it is a legal relationship.

The age of consent in Fl is 18.

Dating does not equate to sexual contact. It is entirely possible to DATE without ever engaging in any sexually stimulating contact. As a matter of fact, at their ages in Fl, if they want to date, it is the law.

cyjeff

01-27-2007, 04:23 AM

Two things to add...

One, if her parents say no to the relationship, no law is going to say yes. In other words, parents can make illegal the legal and can make your friend stop dating the pedophile. If their wishes are not followed, they can file a restraining order against the man and send him to prison for merely contacting the little girl so they can talk about the weather.

Two, sexually stimulating contact is any type of contact which arouses or excites the 16 year old. This includes, but is not limited to, kissing, hugging, holding hands, snuggling, etc. This also includes any and all discussions of sex and/or sexual contact including emails, text messages, phone calls, etc. The only difference it makes as to the type of contact is that if the man has used the internet to tell the little girl how good it will feel to do X, additional charges apply.

Your friend is going to love the pedophile straight to prison.

Oh, one more thing. Anyone that witnesses the two together can file charges, not just her parents. If they kiss in the alley behind the Piggly Wiggly and someone drives by, they can turn them in as well. Teachers, police, anyone can turn them in.

reg05

01-29-2007, 07:13 PM

turbowray

01-30-2007, 12:22 AM

i'm 20 yr old and my girlfriend is 14 yr old. we been dating for 1 yr and 2 months. we have nothad any kind of sex. we just talk on the phone and email each other. her parents do not like me because they think i'm a bad person. could u please tell me what are the laws for dating her?
Since the parents don't like you, you must stay away from her. Just talking to her about what could happen, when she is of age, is illegal, and if you send her anything that is of sexual content, in an email, that is illegal, and it also makes it a federal crime. Please, I will not lecture you about being 6 years older, I will just say, you should not see, or speak to her until she is 18, and nothing can happen to either one of you. Have you kissed her, or anything, sex is not all that someone can be charged with, this is why the question? Have you met in person? Did you meet her online (you said all you do is talk and email, so that makes me think, you met her online). Please, answer the questions honestly, that way we can give you precise laws on this.

rcpilot

01-30-2007, 01:03 AM

i'm 20 yr old and my girlfriend is 14 yr old. we been dating for 1 yr and 2 months. we have nothad any kind of sex. we just talk on the phone and email each other. her parents do not like me because they think i'm a bad person. could u please tell me what are the laws for dating her?

What you are describing can be interpreted as a child preditor.
1. You are An Adult, in years.
2. You know her parents do not approve of you having contact.
3. You are doing so behind their back, indicating that you were already aware that it is wrong.
4. You are using the two mediums for which it is illegal and is the easiest to prove use of, for you to have a relationship through, the phone and the internet.
5. You are risking EVERYTHING you could ever want or need.

This girl may act mature and seem to know what she wants, it is obvious what you want, but you will never align with her socially, mentally, or emotionally, the most you can be is a commanding strong influence on a naive, innocent child.

Do you not understand the ramifications of this relationship? Or are you simply ignoring them? This is the biggest gamble of your life, in my state literally Life Imprisonment for sex with anyone under the age of 16 as long as other is more than 19.

Get over your problem, go find a woman to ease your soul, spirit and body. I promise, you will be happier in the end.

Duanesmommy

01-30-2007, 06:41 PM

turbowray

01-30-2007, 07:03 PM

I was wondering, what is the law with a 16 yr old male that possibly impregnanted a 19yr old gurl on his 16th b-day...what is the law with that...and can the state of FL press charges against her even if the guardian of the 16yr old boy doesnt....

She is to old, you are under 18, and Florida is very very strict on this, so yes, the state can press charges, if they find out that a 19 year old slept with a 16 year old. They do not care if the offender is a woman, they care about the age of the person who was raped (yes, by state laws, you were raped). Parental consent does not change the law.

Duanesmommy

01-30-2007, 07:31 PM

So what would happen to her 2 week old son...if i take this to court to find out if he is the father of her child?????

Duanesmommy

01-30-2007, 07:33 PM

also...what happens when he turns 18...and say she tries to go after him for child support...can she still be charged with it...since it happened while he was underage

lilgreen1713

01-31-2007, 02:55 PM

I live in Florida and I am 16 and going to be 17 in 5 months and i have a friend who has just turned 21, if we were ever to date would it be against the law? and if we were just to kiss could he get in any kind of trouble? Please let me know! :confused:

MomofBoys

01-31-2007, 03:12 PM

For the love of all that is good and holy... if you have a new question, POST A NEW THREAD! It is impossible to keep track of so many different posters and questions on one thread!

And here's a hint... if you start the question with "is it legal to...." then the answer is probably no, or at a minimum, you are riding very close to the edge!

turbowray

01-31-2007, 08:53 PM

So what would happen to her 2 week old son...if i take this to court to find out if he is the father of her child?????

She would go to jail for rape, and he would most likely end up with custody (at least while she is in jail). You would need to contact the District Attorney to see all that could happen. You should also contact your cities child advocacy center, to speak to a child advocate, and get the support that you and he both need right now! You would have to act alot on the support of the child, because of his age. If you do not agree to help take care of the child, chances are, the child would become a ward of the state.

turbowray

01-31-2007, 08:58 PM

also...what happens when he turns 18...and say she tries to go after him for child support...can she still be charged with it...since it happened while he was underage

Yes, there is a 7 year statute of limitations, for charges against rape, so she can be charged any time, even after he turns 18. If she gains custody at any time, he can be charged with child support payments, from the moment she has custody. You really need to be contacting a lawyer, to get all of this ironed out! You need to make sure you have legal representation, to see that the child and your son are taken care of. Good luck to all 3 of you! Please start a new thread, if you need more answers. It is getting kind of confusing here, with so much going on.