>Hi Robin,Thanks for your post - though I don't fully understand it. Well no that's not quite exactly what they want, is it Carl? What they want in their circumstances unfortunate though they may be and as sympathetic as I am to those circumstances, is SOMEONE ELSE'S BABY.Forgive my ignorance, but isn't that what adoption is all about? Some of us might be a little more concerned than you seem to be about the ethics of how they are going about achieving that transfer of parental responsibilities. They are turning the whole thing in to a rather sick and uncontrolled marketing exercise based primarily on their gar gar needs, rather than the needs of the as yet unborn child and its as yet still expectant mother, throughout each of the rest of their individual lives.I don't see what's wrong with stating their need for a child to any venuethat seems appropriate to find a birth mother. They didn't study this NGfirst or they probably wouldn't have posted here. But consider that theyseem to be desparately seeking .What choice is there but to examine allalternatives?Carl

Considering the ethics of an action before letting desperation drive you to it.
There are any number of people involved in the procurement of children who
will advise prospective adoptive parents to get out there and market the hell
out of themselves and more than enough prospective adoptive parents willing to
do precisely that, without having considered exactly what it is they are doing.


It is this desperation that fuels the darker side of adoption: the lies, broken
promises, shuffling of mothers-to-be across state lines (or even national
boundaries) and any number of other, at-best-distasteful methods of landing
that child.

Most of those who post here have given a fair amount of thought to the concept
of ethical adoption, even though we rarely agree on what that might be. Few
come to mind that endorse the approach taken by the couple in question.

J.
Surrendering the soapbox to the next speaker.





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