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LilMtnCbn
01-04-2005, 06:20 AM
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Don't block the adoption

Tuesday, January 4, 2005 - Page A12

Imagine if Canadian children whose birth parents could not raise them were
condemned to one foster home after another, rather than given the chance to be
adopted into a family of their own. It would be unthinkably cruel, a scandal.
Yet that has been the situation for Saskatchewan's aboriginal children.

In a case before the province's Court of Queen's Bench last month, five
children had been denied a basic need of children everywhere -- the need for a
loving, lasting home. Two of them, 12 and 13, have already been in at least 13
foster placements. Another child, 8, suffers from an emotional disorder linked
to living in 20 homes -- yes, 20 -- in five years. A fourth child is just 4;
his foster mother explained that she does not have the bond with him necessary
for a permanent commitment.

Yet a Saskatchewan government policy has had the effect of ruling out adoption
by families that might nurture these children as their own. The government
gives native bands a veto over the adoption of children who are band members.
Understandably, the band involved in the court case, Sturgeon Lake First
Nation, does not want the children to lose contact with their community and
their culture. The problem is that there are no extended family members or
Sturgeon Lake band members willing to take the children.

None of these five children even lives on the Sturgeon Lake reserve. No
evidence was presented that they had ever lived there. Their connection to the
community is more a theory than a reality. Yet Stur-geon Lake has used its veto
to maintain the children in a permanent, and highly destructive, foster-care
limbo. The band says the Charter of Rights and Freedoms protects the aboriginal
right to reject the adoption of a native child by a non-native family. In
practice, this has meant that "native rights" were used to justify abysmal
childhoods for native children. And this was supported by the official policy
of the Saskatchewan government.

Thankfully, Madam Justice Jacelyn Ann Ryan-Froslie struck down this disastrous
policy as an infringement of the children's constitutional rights to security
of the person and to equality. Her decision should be read by every
child-welfare agency, judge and provincial government across the country. It
suggests how far the pendulum has swung since the 1960s, when, in the judge's
words, native children were subject to "systematic removal" from their homes
and communities and forcibly assimilated into non-native homes. Aboriginal
children in today's Saskatchewan have been subject to a systematic denial of
their basic needs as children.

Of 3,000 children in foster care in Saskatchewan, most of them under 11, 70 per
cent are aboriginal, according to government figures cited in the judge's
ruling. The province's Children's Advocate said four years ago that these
children are "sentenced to ambiguity" and warehoused until they are old enough
to leave care. The advocate said there is ample evidence that children's mental
health suffers when they are raised in limbo. This was clear in the judge's
discussion of the eight-year-old, whose emotional disorder makes it difficult
for her to form bonds with others. "What Maggie [the judge's pseudonym for the
girl] needs most is a stable living arrangement to help her attach positively
to someone and resolve her fear of loving and being loved. The key is
permanence."

It is unconscionable to deny an eight-year-old a permanent home and family.
Foster families fill an important need but they are not, by definition, as
committed as adoptive ones. As one social worker quoted in Judge Ryan-Froslie's
ruling puts it, the system of permanent foster care is a "method of appeasing
everyone, but the child is forgotten."

Enough of this destructive tug of war. All adopting families, no matter what
their heritage, should respect and foster a child's aboriginal identity. But
above all, a child deserves a family.




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22Ted
01-05-2005, 12:00 PM
We ran into a similar situation way back when we expressed interest in
adopting a black infant. We were told in no uncertain terms that a lifetime
of foster placement was far better than to risk cultural genocide by
allowing a black baby to be raised by white parents.

OTH we were more than qualified to adopt an older black sibling group of
three boys who after multiple placements were considered "highly special
needs". One was fond of fire, another had been physically abusive to other
children in several homes and the third....can't remember what his situation
was it's been so long ago. Oh, yes I do...developmentally disabled, whatever
that meant.

With all due respect to Indian law if there's no one ready, willing and able
to step forward to adopt a child of same heritage, a qualified parent is a
qualified parent. Especially if you are willing to maintain cultural
connection.

As the apar of an Asian daughter, we're so Chinese around here our Chinese
friends think we're nuts.

Xin Nian Hao ya'll!

(the)duckster

Linda Fortney
01-05-2005, 12:38 PM
>As the apar of an Asian daughter, we're so Chinese around here our Chinesefriends think we're nuts.Xin Nian Hao ya'll!(the)duckster


Duck, you surpass us. Our goal is to be as Chinese as a third generation
Chinese-American family is. Goin' to a dumpling making class this
weekend though. It is a heavy duty one, we even have to make our own
dough.

I am so glad we have an excuse to celebrate Chinese New Year. Does away
with the post-Christmas doldrums quite well.





Linda

22Ted
01-07-2005, 04:11 AM
"Linda Fortney" <lfortney@dc.umd.edu> wrote in message
news:crhj90$ult@marlowe.umd.edu...As the apar of an Asian daughter, we're so Chinese around here our
Chinesefriends think we're nuts.Xin Nian Hao ya'll!(the)duckster Duck, you surpass us.

Nah...you are doing just fine. YuanFen - connection comes in many sizes.
Our goal is to be as Chinese as a third generation Chinese-American family is.

ABC (American Born Chinese) are one fast multiplying group.

Goin' to a dumpling making class this weekend though. It is a heavy duty one, we even have to make our own dough.

Next to pierogi, jiaozi and baozi are my favorite eats. Only dif is that we
polacks fry ours in butter which goes a long way in 'splainin why we look
the way we do. I am so glad we have an excuse to celebrate Chinese New Year. Does away with the post-Christmas doldrums quite well.

Yep, we just switch the multi colored lights to red, replaced Santa with a
few lucky figures, hung dui lian and it all mixed perfectly with the
Christmas village we left up. But these new year parties..thought christmas
was bad. Four right in a row and CRK's dance troupe performs at them all.

My chinese teacher is putting serious pressure on me to sing a traditional
Hubei New Year song (chinese opera style) which means I'm going to have to
don a costume. Fortunately, I'm too fat to fit into anything closely
resembling traditional chinesewear, thus sparing myself the humiliation of
standing in front of hundreds of Chinese people looking like an overstuffed
rooster. She is making rumblings about making me a costume, but if I'm
lucky I can distract her with more pressing party details.

Hey, howz about a recent pix of Miss E. Is your address good? I'll send
you one of CRK. Where do the years go?

fondly,

ducks
Linda

Linda Fortney
01-07-2005, 08:33 AM
In article <41de7b06$0$19032$9a6e19ea@news.newshosting.com>,
Hey, howz about a recent pix of Miss E. Is your address good? I'll sendyou one of CRK. Where do the years go?


Address still good. I would love to see a pic of CR, and will send you
one of Miss E if you would be so kind as to e-mail me your snail mail
address.

Linda

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