:confused: Well Im 8 months now and the bio father left when i was 3 months, which was ok because he lived off me for 3 months. When i found out that i was pregnant i was still married to some one else, but the divorce was in process. Now my problem is im back with my ex husband and we want to raise this child like our other two we have. This guy the bio father has never had a steady place to live, never mind that he has a warrent out 4 his arrest in another state that he ran from while on probation which i didn't find out till later. I dont want him around this child till the child is old enough to know right from wrong only because this guy is a child him self. The bio father has only had one job on the table and i think that was when he was 18 and he didn't even keep it that long. He is not a fit parent he is always running from his problems. Please help, since i was still married when i conceived and im back with the ex husband what should we do? Should i put the ex husbands name on the birth cert? Should i just leave it blank? What should i do that would be the best thing for the long run? Please some one with some answers get back to me... Thanks also i live in new hampshire if that will help any!! Thanks again.

:confused: Well Im 8 months now and the bio father left when i was 3 months, which was ok because he lived off me for 3 months. When i found out that i was pregnant i was still married to some one else, but the divorce was in process. Now my problem is im back with my ex husband and we want to raise this child like our other two we have. This guy the bio father has never had a steady place to live, never mind that he has a warrent out 4 his arrest in another state that he ran from while on probation which i didn't find out till later. I dont want him around this child till the child is old enough to know right from wrong only because this guy is a child him self. The bio father has only had one job on the table and i think that was when he was 18 and he didn't even keep it that long. He is not a fit parent he is always running from his problems. Please help, since i was still married when i conceived and im back with the ex husband what should we do? Should i put the ex husbands name on the birth cert? Should i just leave it blank? What should i do that would be the best thing for the long run? Please some one with some answers get back to me... Thanks
Since you were and are still married when the child was concieved, your husband will automatically be considerd the father of the baby.

Where is this guy now? In order for him to have any rights to the child, he would have to file in court, first to establish paternity,and then for visitation/custody.

The bio father is in vermont doing job corps, i guess which is good for him and i hope he can get his life together. He has called me a couple times i didn't have a chance to talk to him, due to where i live my cell phone dont get service, Then he once called my mom and talked to her and she asked him how he was doing and staying drug free and he said ugg u know how hard that is? So i dont know what to believe. I feel that in the best interest he shouldn't be involved with this child untill the child is a little older. IF i put the babys name my ex husbands name then the bio father will go to court and then he will have to pay out of pocket for the dna test? Saying if he does want something to do with the child, when i frist told him i was having a baby with him he told me he wasn't ready and he was just a child himself, so does that help any?

The bio father is in vermont doing job corps, i guess which is good for him and i hope he can get his life together. He has called me a couple times i didn't have a chance to talk to him, due to where i live my cell phone dont get service, Then he once called my mom and talked to her and she asked him how he was doing and staying drug free and he said ugg u know how hard that is? So i dont know what to believe. I feel that in the best interest he shouldn't be involved with this child untill the child is a little older. IF i put the babys name my ex husbands name then the bio father will go to court and then he will have to pay out of pocket for the dna test? Saying if he does want something to do with the child, when i frist told him i was having a baby with him he told me he wasn't ready and he was just a child himself, so does that help any?
No, you don't understand. Because you became pregnant while you were still married, your husband (now ex if the divorce was ever finalized) is already the LEGAL father. Either your baby's bio father will have to sue for paternity or your husband (ex) will have to file to DENY paternity. And yes, the father will have to sue in court for rights to the child. You cannot terminate the bio dad's rights because he doesn't have any rights until he is granted them by the court.

So since they will think of the ex husband as the father ( which is good ) should his name go on the birth certificate? And yes the divorce was final. So now i wonder should we get remarried? Thanks for your help!

So since they will think of the ex husband as the father ( which is good ) should his name go on the birth certificate? And yes the divorce was final. So now i wonder should we get remarried? Thanks for your help!
His name will go on the birth certificate, whether you want it to or not. Whether or not you get remarried is a personal decision you and your ex husband will have to make on your own. It won't change legal paternity one way or the other. :)

No, you don't understand. Because you became pregnant while you were still married, your husband (now ex if the divorce was ever finalized) is already the LEGAL father. Either your baby's bio father will have to sue for paternity or your husband (ex) will have to file to DENY paternity. And yes, the father will have to sue in court for rights to the child. You cannot terminate the bio dad's rights because he doesn't have any rights until he is granted them by the court.
I don't believe that is correct. Altho the child was concieved during the marriage, the marital status at the time of birth is what establishes legal paternity. If the divorce was final before the birth the ex is not the legal father, unless the divorce decree specificlly states that a child of the marrige is expected. I'm not sure if all states are this way, but I know that alot of them will not allow a divorce to be finalized until the child is born if the pregnancy is known.

I think that at this point, OP's baby may not have any legal father, but should check with an attorney to make sure.

I thought the baby was born before the divorce was final. If I misunderstood OP, I'm sorry.

I thought the baby was born before the divorce was final. If I misunderstood OP, I'm sorry.
LOL, you and I were thinking that OP's baby has already been born, but apparently OP is still pregnant at 8 months. Well, at least it doesn't change our answers any.

LOL, you and I were thinking that OP's baby has already been born, but apparently OP is still pregnant at 8 months. Well, at least it doesn't change our answers any.
Oh good grief!! You would think that I could at least read the title of the post! :o :p Chalk it up to my blonde moment!

Oh good grief!! You would think that I could at least read the title of the post! :o :p Chalk it up to my blonde moment!
I envy you, I don't have blonde moments, I have senior moments. LOL