Tm n Kat
09-11-2004, 10:23 AM
I have been "touched by adoption" in several ways which I am sure will impact
my thoughts and opinions.
First, I have had many lunch conversations with a co-worker who is also an
adoptive mother of a grown man. Recently her mother gave her a newspaper
article that she believes might be about her sons relinquishment. She said
that she was kind of surprised by this article because the agency that they had
went through told them he was from another area and they had even traveled to
another area to pick him up. According to the dates in the article though, it
sounds like it may be him and that this event happened locally. She will put
this, along with all other documents in safe keeping should he ever ask. IMO,
she is an open and trusting person with a very positive attitude and is
handling everything perfectly ...being supportive and approachable, yet letting
her son do this on his own time and I really admire her.
My second experience is also with a co-worker. In the same month that my
grandson James was born (12/02), she was informed that a baby was born in which
her son was named as the father who had been removed from the mother due to a
positive drug test in the hospital. Her daughter, who is going to school for
her master degree, approached her about requesting the baby be placed in their
home as opposed to it going into foster care. She gave it alot of thought,
after all, she just was not sure if she could juggle work and daycare and
sleepless nights but she decided to give it a try and her daughter promised to
help as she could. Well, they have been doing a great job of raising this
little one and we have had many fun stories about she and James progress.
James had many medical issues that first year as did her grandaughter. At each
court hearing, there were delays because the childs mother was unable to finish
ordered programs to get her back on her feet and stablized. Finally during
last months hearing, baby's mom expressed some doubt about paternity and a test
was immediatly ordered which came back that my co-worker's son was not the
father of the baby. We co-workers all heald our breaths until the next court
hearing for fear that the baby, now 18 months old, would be removed and placed
in foster care and then we all boo-hooed tears of joy when she returned to work
and let us know they are allowing baby to stay in her home.
It seems I am experiencing other sides of this adoption world lately in my
everyday life. Kathy J
my thoughts and opinions.
First, I have had many lunch conversations with a co-worker who is also an
adoptive mother of a grown man. Recently her mother gave her a newspaper
article that she believes might be about her sons relinquishment. She said
that she was kind of surprised by this article because the agency that they had
went through told them he was from another area and they had even traveled to
another area to pick him up. According to the dates in the article though, it
sounds like it may be him and that this event happened locally. She will put
this, along with all other documents in safe keeping should he ever ask. IMO,
she is an open and trusting person with a very positive attitude and is
handling everything perfectly ...being supportive and approachable, yet letting
her son do this on his own time and I really admire her.
My second experience is also with a co-worker. In the same month that my
grandson James was born (12/02), she was informed that a baby was born in which
her son was named as the father who had been removed from the mother due to a
positive drug test in the hospital. Her daughter, who is going to school for
her master degree, approached her about requesting the baby be placed in their
home as opposed to it going into foster care. She gave it alot of thought,
after all, she just was not sure if she could juggle work and daycare and
sleepless nights but she decided to give it a try and her daughter promised to
help as she could. Well, they have been doing a great job of raising this
little one and we have had many fun stories about she and James progress.
James had many medical issues that first year as did her grandaughter. At each
court hearing, there were delays because the childs mother was unable to finish
ordered programs to get her back on her feet and stablized. Finally during
last months hearing, baby's mom expressed some doubt about paternity and a test
was immediatly ordered which came back that my co-worker's son was not the
father of the baby. We co-workers all heald our breaths until the next court
hearing for fear that the baby, now 18 months old, would be removed and placed
in foster care and then we all boo-hooed tears of joy when she returned to work
and let us know they are allowing baby to stay in her home.
It seems I am experiencing other sides of this adoption world lately in my
everyday life. Kathy J
