I posted a few times about my situation , we are set to go to court on aug 15 for custody. Just yesterday the ex asked if we could work it out. She said said i could get my daughter 4 months out of the year and we would alternate xmas and other holidays. (she lives in georgia and i live in illinois) and we would have a meeting point to pick up daughter. i would be paying the child support through the court instead of directly to her and i would put my daughter on my health insurance. Shes called me like 3 or 4 times asking me if i had called my attorney , so she sounds like she wants to get this resolved before the ugly custody battle. It seems fair to me . Can someone respond, does this sound fair to you?

I posted a few times about my situation , we are set to go to court on aug 15 for custody. Just yesterday the ex asked if we could work it out. She said said i could get my daughter 4 months out of the year and we would alternate xmas and other holidays. (she lives in georgia and i live in illinois) and we would have a meeting point to pick up daughter. i would be paying the child support through the court instead of directly to her and i would put my daughter on my health insurance. Shes called me like 3 or 4 times asking me if i had called my attorney , so she sounds like she wants to get this resolved before the ugly custody battle. It seems fair to me . Can someone respond, does this sound fair to you?

It seems okay to me, for the time being. Are you thinking you'll have her one month, the exgirlfriend for two, you for one, ex for two, etc.? My concern would be in two years when she starts kindergarten. That's not gonna work when she's in school.

Bottom line...it's up to you how much time with your daughter is okay with you. If it were me, I'd move no more than 5 minutes away from my daughter. I wouldn't want to put my daughter through that sort of drive 8 times a year, plus holidays. I know it's not your fault she up and moved on you, but I get the gut feeling that you are being strung along here...hopefully, it's just my suspicious nature.

Any other impressions here, or is it just me?

I want to thank you for responding , you seem real knowlegable and seem to care. I think we are going to be able to work it out, im going to ask for 2 months and then a month and then another month, then alternate xmas and other holidays , and birthday. Im als going to make sure i can claim her on my taxes seeing that i make much more than the gfriend with me giving her 20 percent of it like we have been doing the last couple of years . And lastly im def going to demand that i dont have to pay her attorney . again thanks for responding . Am i being reasonable and fair in you opinion?