hello everyone..

I have a situation in which I just found out that my 15 yr old daughter is pregnant..I have suggested that she has an abortion done because I feel that she is not prepared to have a baby yet and I don't ant her to through the struggles of being a mother at this time. She is barely graduating out of 8th grade and only known this kid for 2 months.. Plus I can't help her financially since I have 3 kids (that's including her) that I need to support. My youngest child is only 1 and I'm a single mother raising all of them. I am struggling financially because work is hard to find. Now she is convinced that she is going to have this baby and that her baby daddy is going to stay with her but he is nothing but 17 that does not go to school and gets druck and high all day long. How can I convince her to have an abortion or as her mother can I legally force her to?? Any advice will be appreciated.

hello everyone..

I have a situation in which I just found out that my 15 yr old daughter is pregnant..I have suggested that she has an abortion done because I feel that she is not prepared to have a baby yet and I don't ant her to through the struggles of being a mother at this time. She is barely graduating out of 8th grade and only known this kid for 2 months.. Plus I can't help her financially since I have 3 kids (that's including her) that I need to support. My youngest child is only 1 and I'm a single mother raising all of them. I am struggling financially because work is hard to find. Now she is convinced that she is going to have this baby and that her baby daddy is going to stay with her but he is nothing but 17 that does not go to school and gets druck and high all day long. How can I convince her to have an abortion or as her mother can I legally force her to?? Any advice will be appreciated.

I understand your position...but you are forgetting another option.

There are many fine organizations that assist young mothers-to-be with adoption placement and offer help throughout the pregnancy. Not to get on a soapbox here, but wouldn't you agree that this is a better solution than an abortion, and also will teach your daughter more responsibility than just getting rid of the problem. I fervently hope you will consider this very positive option.

If I were you, I would also get a restraining order against the 17-year-old as soon as possible. Impregnating his 15-year-old girlfriend is completely inappropriate, and should result in some hard consequences for him as well.

To answer your question, you cannot legally force her to have an abortion, nor are you likely to convince her to have one if it is truly against her will.

My best wishes to you in this difficult time - please do seek out help...it is there for the asking!

hello everyone..

I have a situation in which I just found out that my 15 yr old daughter is pregnant..I have suggested that she has an abortion done because I feel that she is not prepared to have a baby yet and I don't ant her to through the struggles of being a mother at this time. She is barely graduating out of 8th grade and only known this kid for 2 months.. Plus I can't help her financially since I have 3 kids (that's including her) that I need to support. My youngest child is only 1 and I'm a single mother raising all of them. I am struggling financially because work is hard to find. Now she is convinced that she is going to have this baby and that her baby daddy is going to stay with her but he is nothing but 17 that does not go to school and gets druck and high all day long. How can I convince her to have an abortion or as her mother can I legally force her to?? Any advice will be appreciated.

I'm not trying 2 be mean, but this is the advice u gave me. Maybe u can give this to ur daughter:


Trouble:

I have read your situation and I just wanted 2 to tell you not 2 worry about anything. I had my first child when I was 15 and my second when I was 17 and went through similar situations that u are experiencing. Keep strong and don't let your mom make discissions for you, this is ur baby (not hers). It will be rough but you keep strong & just because your pregnant doesn't mean that its the end of the world. I had 2 by the age of 17 and I still finished school, went 2 college and got 2 degrees in addition 2 raising my babies on my own.

Trouble your life will change but you make of it what you want and feel not what your mother wants..you now are the one to make the discissions that best suits you and your baby no one else.

Good Luck with everything and know that I am also here to help you with what I can.

djsmama2006
chicago

Thank u both for your advices..

Trouble you are right I did give you this advice and I also had the same conversation with my daughter right before I read your reply..We both discussed it in which I sat back and listened to her and her opinions openly and without anger or hurtful feeling that I had. She has come to her own conclusions and decisions in which now I respect,

Boobatuba..

Your advice is also grately appreciated, I will be putting a restraining order on him since I have been telling him to stay away from my daughter for the last month. He has done nothing but harm her and brain washed her mind since they met and now I hear that he is constantly disrespecting her in front of his friends and hers and has even raised his hand at her to scare her. So I will definately be putting a stop to him..

Thanks..

what happens to a parent when their child decides to raise the child they bear? if the child refuses to put its child up for adoption what can a parent who already has enough on the plate, and did not create this new life do? why should the parent be responsible for the child's child? what are the options then?

hello everyone..

I have a situation in which I just found out that my 15 yr old daughter is pregnant..I have suggested that she has an abortion done because I feel that she is not prepared to have a baby yet and I don't ant her to through the struggles of being a mother at this time. She is barely graduating out of 8th grade and only known this kid for 2 months.. Plus I can't help her financially since I have 3 kids (that's including her) that I need to support. My youngest child is only 1 and I'm a single mother raising all of them. I am struggling financially because work is hard to find. Now she is convinced that she is going to have this baby and that her baby daddy is going to stay with her but he is nothing but 17 that does not go to school and gets druck and high all day long. How can I convince her to have an abortion or as her mother can I legally force her to?? Any advice will be appreciated.


well i feel for you but my daughter got pregnant at age 15 had him at 16 and my opinoin on ur question is i felt the same way,but she was already 4months when we found out,and i am helping her raise my first grandson,yes its hard but i wouldnt change a thing if i could i love him to death and im glad he is in this world..what i am trying to say is stop and think before u make any bad choices please cause u will regret them if its a bad choice..

Just think this situation through before anything is done. You never no she may be young but she may also be a good mother.

hello everyone..

I have a situation in which I just found out that my 15 yr old daughter is pregnant..I have suggested that she has an abortion done because I feel that she is not prepared to have a baby yet and I don't ant her to through the struggles of being a mother at this time. She is barely graduating out of 8th grade and only known this kid for 2 months.. Plus I can't help her financially since I have 3 kids (that's including her) that I need to support. My youngest child is only 1 and I'm a single mother raising all of them. I am struggling financially because work is hard to find. Now she is convinced that she is going to have this baby and that her baby daddy is going to stay with her but he is nothing but 17 that does not go to school and gets druck and high all day long. How can I convince her to have an abortion or as her mother can I legally force her to?? Any advice will be appreciated.

I will adopt it! Once we get through this custody case and it's settled, we are going ahead with our adoption plans. We both wanted to adopt for years. Now, it's time. We are looking to start process now because it takes so long to get a child that we are afraid kids will be getting to old to enjoy them. But, WE WOULD LOVE TO!

well i feel for you but my daughter got pregnant at age 15 had him at 16 and my opinoin on ur question is i felt the same way,but she was already 4months when we found out,and i am helping her raise my first grandson,yes its hard but i wouldnt change a thing if i could i love him to death and im glad he is in this world..what i am trying to say is stop and think before u make any bad choices please cause u will regret them if its a bad choice..

APPLAUD! That happens a lot.