I posted earlier on this website my situation. I have a 2 and ahalf year old little girl with a ex girlfriend. She just recently moved to georgia from illinois where everything was going good, i was able to see my daughter 2 or more times a week. i did not approve of this move due to the fact that i wouldnt be able to see my daughter on a regular basis. We went to court to establish c support today. My attorney and her attorney hashed out everything and came up with , i get my daughter all day and night till 12:30p, then i get her the the whole month of june, i have to travel to georgia to get her on the 1st. The ex girlfriend isnt is still trying to stay in georgia. She has no job and nothing going. Shes living with a girlfriend and a older lady thats paying the bills, I think shes having sexual relations with both, but thats just my assumption. My daughters granparents and god mother live in the same town and my little girl has much more support here. Do i have a shot at custody ? and what is reasonable visitation in the courts eyes? my attorney tells me its 1 month in the summer and a couple of holidays, is he right? if he is right , how in the hell is that reasonable? do all the guys get the blue screw? please if anyone has any answers please respond , thank you

i did not approve of this move due to the fact that i wouldnt be able to see my daughter on a regular basis.


You should have opposed the move in court but if you didn't when the move happened, there is not much to show or prove in court saying that you didn't agree with the move at the time it occured.


She has no job and nothing going.


This point could be brought up in court but courts rarely side with one parent over the other on the basis of who has more money. I wouldn't try to bring up your suspicions of sexual acts between the women living in the household unless you suspect the child is being abused in some way.


My daughters granparents and god mother live in the same town and my little girl has much more support here. Do i have a shot at custody ? and what is reasonable visitation in the courts eyes? my attorney tells me its 1 month in the summer and a couple of holidays, is he right? if he is right , how in the hell is that reasonable? do all the guys get the blue screw? please if anyone has any answers please respond , thank you


Your prior access to the child could be brought up if it was substantially more than you have now. The presence of other family members in your immediate area is a good thing and could go to show there is more stability and support for you as a single parent.

As far as reasonable, that is a case by case thing. If you can show a pattern of unstable or unsuitable actions or behaviors of the mother you could get more time. Her moving to another state and living with people YOU don't know is not one of them. SHE may have known these people for years.

If she met them on the internet one week and moved to live with them the next, that could show she has a "screw loose". If she uses drugs, leaves your child unsupervised, leaves your child with unsuitable caretakers, neglects your childs needs, abuses your child or allows others to do so, then you have a case.

My exH got sole custody of his daughter because the court determined the mother was unfit (for all of the reasons listed in the previous paragraph). My step daughter lives with me now, but that is our choice for her to grow up with our child who is only 2 1/2 years older. I let him be with his children as much or as little as he wants. It really is not (for the most part) a "blue screw" deal.

If she is a good mother who happens to live in another state, then, as hard as this is to take, there isn't much else that you can do about it.

Lastly, it is not for your attorney to decide if that is enough custody. If you think your situation gives your daughter more stablility, then don't settle for what your attorney and her attorney got together and decided, in order to end the case quickly. (they do that alot) Fight for what you think is best for your daughter. (My exH had to repeatedly request drug screenings even though we had 4 police reports of the mom being arrested for crack. 5 requests before the judge agreed to order it, just to shut him up, and then, of course she failed it.) Even if that means disagreeing with your own attorney. You pay the bill.