>But I'd say that foran individual kid, it *is* a better answer than "Hang in there, we'llfix the place up eventually"

When I look at may two children, I cannot think that they would better off in
the children's institution then in our family.
Yes they do experience pain and sadness because they were adopted but that
doesn't mean they would have been better off left in an institution. I am not
for baby selling or against reform. I think that kids that are already in the
institutions deserve a chance at a family.
I signed the pettition and I think I did the right thing. I also contribute to
charities working in Romania.

Margaret

in article 20040702120212.23168.00001145@mb-m07.aol.com, Mihaicar at
mihaicar@aol.com wrote on 2/7/04 5:02 pm:
But I'd say that for an individual kid, it *is* a better answer than "Hang in there, we'll fix the place up eventually"

When I look at may two children, I cannot think that they would better off in the children's institution then in our family. Yes they do experience pain and sadness because they were adopted but that doesn't mean they would have been better off left in an institution. I am not for baby selling or against reform. I think that kids that are already in the institutions deserve a chance at a family. I signed the pettition and I think I did the right thing. I also contribute to charities working in Romania. Margaret


Margaret, did your kids come from Romania? Have they been in an institution
in Romania or elsewhere?

Robin

>Margaret, did your kids come from Romania? Have they been in an institutionin Romania or elsewhere?

Yes, both of my children were adopted from Romania. My son was 2 1/2 when he
was adopted, went into an institutiion at 4 months. My daughter was four when
adopted, and went into the institution at 2. It is very hard for me not to
respond emotionally when I read these posts. I have seen the children left
behind and the street children. Of course that was 5 years ago. I truly hope
that things are better . To me one of the worst things about eastern Europe
children's institutions was how they would be moved as they got older. My
daughter would have suffered that fate if she wasn't adopted. I do not know
the state of the children's home now or the practices but I do believe no
matter how well run, a child is better off in a loving family then in an
institution.


Margaret

in article 20040702181331.04811.00000656@mb-m24.aol.com, Mihaicar at
mihaicar@aol.com wrote on 2/7/04 11:13 pm:
Margaret, did your kids come from Romania? Have they been in an institution in Romania or elsewhere?

Yes, both of my children were adopted from Romania. My son was 2 1/2 when he was adopted, went into an institutiion at 4 months. My daughter was four when adopted, and went into the institution at 2. It is very hard for me not to respond emotionally when I read these posts. I have seen the children left behind and the street children. Of course that was 5 years ago. I truly hope that things are better . To me one of the worst things about eastern Europe children's institutions was how they would be moved as they got older. My daughter would have suffered that fate if she wasn't adopted. I do not know the state of the children's home now or the practices but I do believe no matter how well run, a child is better off in a loving family then in an institution.


I think so too. But the people who have drawn a halt to adoption out of
Romania have done so in part because they did not feel that it could be
guaranteed that a child would be going to a loving family. The system was
still essentially too corrupt and some very nasty things could befall a
child in that situation. Do you consider that five years ago, the
orphanages were still as bad as they were in the pictures that we were all
seeing on our TV screens 14 years ago?


I'm afraid being moved around all of your childhood seems to be a part of
'being in care' wherever you are. It is not at all unusual for a child to
age out of care in England having had 13 sets of foster parents in the last
10 years. I hope that will not become the norm in Romania. The old
children's homes here at least gave some stability to the child's life.

Robin