LilMtnCbn
06-29-2004, 09:25 AM
http://www.illinoisleader.com/letters/lettersview.asp?c=17100
Adoption not seen as a loving option for these two women
Tuesday, June 29, 2004
Hooray for the Illinois General Assembly [" Choose Life, Inc sues to halt
specialty plate distribution," June 28, 2004]! I am thankful that they are
holding out for a more content-neutral plate than the one that Choose Life,
Inc. is proposing. The fact that the money from these plates would support
adoption agencies sickens me. While adoption is often touted as a solution to
the problem of abortion, it is not.
I know many adopted females that have gone on to have abortions because they
did not want to separate a baby from its mother as was done to them. Those
people who think that adoption makes everything wonderful for mother and child
are sadly mistaken. Mothers and children separated by adoption suffer lifelong
consequences, some of which last for generations.
Instead of promoting separation of families via adoption, why doesn't Choose
Life, Inc. promote preservation of natural families? Perhaps then the Illinois
General Assembly would support their plates.
As an adoptee that spent over 34 years separated from my natural family and did
not feel comfortable bringing my own children into the world until I had found
my own family, I can only support family preservation.
If the Illinois General Assembly votes to endorse funding the adoption
industry, a $1.5 billion business in the US, I will lose respect for them.
Tricia Shore
Van Nuys, CA
**********
Regarding the adoption aid "Choose Life" license plates; I can only say the
hypocrisy here is startling. A mom who loves her child, goes through nine
months of pregnancy and gives birth is then expected to provide her own son or
daughter to some stranger?
Of course, the prospective adopters have all convinced themselves that they
deserve her child and she does not. They call her child a "crisis" as if he or
she is not even a human being. It's not a loving thing to do and they don't
deserve her child.
Sure the child is "unwanted"; society doesn't want the child to stay with
his/her own mother and family. I have no idea why. If people can't have a
Porsche, should someone who has a Porsche be required to hand it over? A child
is not a commodity but is a human being, and as a human being a child is a part
of his/her own family. Yes, every child has a family. Every child has a mother
and a father, even if they are not married. Most also have grandparents, aunts,
uncles, and existing or future siblings who would be affected by the loss of
their family member.
People who can't have a child should just get over it. Most of the time, they
brought it on themselves by putting wealth and their own interests ahead of
family and waiting too long. No one owes them a child. It's just sick.
Providing funding so adopters and adoption agencies can wrest a healthy infant
away from a mother who loves him/her, and no funding for true family members to
remain together is abominable.
Laurie Frisch
Marion, IA
-------------------------
A good friend will come and bail you out of jail . . . but, a true friend will
be sitting next to you saying, "Damn . . . that was fun!"
-----Unknown
Adoption not seen as a loving option for these two women
Tuesday, June 29, 2004
Hooray for the Illinois General Assembly [" Choose Life, Inc sues to halt
specialty plate distribution," June 28, 2004]! I am thankful that they are
holding out for a more content-neutral plate than the one that Choose Life,
Inc. is proposing. The fact that the money from these plates would support
adoption agencies sickens me. While adoption is often touted as a solution to
the problem of abortion, it is not.
I know many adopted females that have gone on to have abortions because they
did not want to separate a baby from its mother as was done to them. Those
people who think that adoption makes everything wonderful for mother and child
are sadly mistaken. Mothers and children separated by adoption suffer lifelong
consequences, some of which last for generations.
Instead of promoting separation of families via adoption, why doesn't Choose
Life, Inc. promote preservation of natural families? Perhaps then the Illinois
General Assembly would support their plates.
As an adoptee that spent over 34 years separated from my natural family and did
not feel comfortable bringing my own children into the world until I had found
my own family, I can only support family preservation.
If the Illinois General Assembly votes to endorse funding the adoption
industry, a $1.5 billion business in the US, I will lose respect for them.
Tricia Shore
Van Nuys, CA
**********
Regarding the adoption aid "Choose Life" license plates; I can only say the
hypocrisy here is startling. A mom who loves her child, goes through nine
months of pregnancy and gives birth is then expected to provide her own son or
daughter to some stranger?
Of course, the prospective adopters have all convinced themselves that they
deserve her child and she does not. They call her child a "crisis" as if he or
she is not even a human being. It's not a loving thing to do and they don't
deserve her child.
Sure the child is "unwanted"; society doesn't want the child to stay with
his/her own mother and family. I have no idea why. If people can't have a
Porsche, should someone who has a Porsche be required to hand it over? A child
is not a commodity but is a human being, and as a human being a child is a part
of his/her own family. Yes, every child has a family. Every child has a mother
and a father, even if they are not married. Most also have grandparents, aunts,
uncles, and existing or future siblings who would be affected by the loss of
their family member.
People who can't have a child should just get over it. Most of the time, they
brought it on themselves by putting wealth and their own interests ahead of
family and waiting too long. No one owes them a child. It's just sick.
Providing funding so adopters and adoption agencies can wrest a healthy infant
away from a mother who loves him/her, and no funding for true family members to
remain together is abominable.
Laurie Frisch
Marion, IA
-------------------------
A good friend will come and bail you out of jail . . . but, a true friend will
be sitting next to you saying, "Damn . . . that was fun!"
-----Unknown
