ok, let me start off by saying im 13 and living in north carolina. my parents are both christian and they recently found out from my sister that im gay. I am and thats all fine and dandy but my parents are in denial and making my life a living hell. my mother wont let me out with friends because she is determined that ill have sex. i cant spend the night with girls because she pretends im straight and i cant stay the night with guys because she knows im not. they constantly make gay comments and say horrid things to my face. walking downstairs is now one of the most trying moments of my day. i just feel so unwanted and hated. im constantly depressed and ive come close to suicide quite a few times. i want to get emancipated in 2 years. ( i turn 14 in july) but ive no idea how to go about doing that and what to do to prepare. i really need some help, i cant live with this horrible woman any longer. they both drink rather alot, they can hold their liquer like no ones business but i was wondering if i could use this to my advantage. i dont want my sister and nephew taken away form them though, my nephew is really attached to my mother despite her...nature...is there anyone who knows what i should do???
thanks.
<3Ryan//

ok, let me start off by saying im 13 and living in north carolina. my parents are both christian and they recently found out from my sister that im gay. I am and thats all fine and dandy but my parents are in denial and making my life a living hell. my mother wont let me out with friends because she is determined that ill have sex. i cant spend the night with girls because she pretends im straight and i cant stay the night with guys because she knows im not. they constantly make gay comments and say horrid things to my face. walking downstairs is now one of the most trying moments of my day. i just feel so unwanted and hated. im constantly depressed and ive come close to suicide quite a few times. i want to get emancipated in 2 years. ( i turn 14 in july) but ive no idea how to go about doing that and what to do to prepare. i really need some help, i cant live with this horrible woman any longer. they both drink rather alot, they can hold their liquer like no ones business but i was wondering if i could use this to my advantage. i dont want my sister and nephew taken away form them though, my nephew is really attached to my mother despite her...nature...is there anyone who knows what i should do???
thanks.
<3Ryan//
What you should do is talk to a counselor about your mental state. If you are truly suicidal, you have bigger problems than your mother. There are many hotlines and websites for teens that are or think they might be gay. There are many counselors trained to help you with your issues. No court is going to consider emancipating you, and in NC, you won't get emancipated even at 15.

thanks for your advice but the suicidal-ness and homosexuality is the least of my problems. im inprisoned by my parents because they are ashamed of me! theres got to be something i can do. could i sue them? i know it sounds stupid but they're loaded and i cant see myself being able to buy a car at 16. once again, i know it sounds stupid but it relates to something else. theres got to be something i can do...

thanks for your advice but the suicidal-ness and homosexuality is the least of my problems. im inprisoned by my parents because they are ashamed of me! theres got to be something i can do. could i sue them? i know it sounds stupid but they're loaded and i cant see myself being able to buy a car at 16. once again, i know it sounds stupid but it relates to something else. theres got to be something i can do...

Your parents are not required to provide you with a car when you turn 16. And no, you can't sue them because they're Christian and don't like the fact that you're gay. You say they've imprisoned you in the home, but I'm assuming they let you go to school, which is the only place that they're absolutely required to let you go (unless you homeschool of course). They are not required to allow you to spend the night with your friends. As previously advised, you need counseling. If you can get your parents to agree to it, family counseling would also be an excellent idea. You have many years to go before you can leave home, it’s imperative that you find a way to deal with this.

i never said they were required to let me be with my friends or let me have a car but i want one/the ability to do so. i dont want to make friendly with them. i want them to feel how i feel. i want them hurt. i need to figure out a way to not only get out but get cash. theres gotta be some lawsuit in this.

i never said they were required to let me be with my friends or let me have a car but i want one/the ability to do so.

Well, I want a million dollars but I'm not going to get it.

i dont want to make friendly with them. i want them to feel how i feel. i want them hurt.

Things are only going to continue to go downhill as long you have this attitude and this desire for revenge. You're only hurting yourself.

i need to figure out a way to not only get out but get cash. theres gotta be some lawsuit in this.

No, there isn't. You don't get to sue your parents because you don't like the decisions that they made/the rules that they have/the way they feel about certain subjects.

i never said they were required to let me be with my friends or let me have a car but i want one/the ability to do so. i dont want to make friendly with them. i want them to feel how i feel. i want them hurt. i need to figure out a way to not only get out but get cash. theres gotta be some lawsuit in this.
And you have just demonstrated exactly WHY you would never be a candidate for emancipation. You cannot sue your parents. What you can do is learn a little bit of repect and restraint, get yourself into counseling, go to school, and stay out of trouble. You are not imprisoned. You do manage to communicate with others, as you have access to a computer. Your parents do not OWE you anything except for food, clothing (designer not required) and shelter. Maybe when you start behaving like a well adjusted, respectful child, your treatment will improve. This sounds more like a child that is angry because you feel that your parents have enough money to buy you everything you want, yet they have told you NO.

You are 13 years old. You CANNOT be emancipated until you are 16 under North Carolina law. Even then, in your situation, I highly doubt a judge would emancipate you.

You say you want them to buy you a car when you turn 16. Well, how about finding a way to earn some money so you can afford your own car. I know that you can't really get a job at 13 but there are some things you can do. And, once you are 14, there are some jobs you would be able to get.

Now to the whole friends thing. Although your parents have the legal right to prevent you from having friends, I clearly think this is completely inappropriate. As a child, my father did not allow me to have friends and it has clearly had a very negative impact on my life. I look back on my childhood and regret it so much because there was so much I missed out on.

In some forms, not being allowed to have friends could be a form of abuse.

In your situation, however, with the whole spending the night thing - it is entirely inappropriate to allow a child to spend the night with friends of the opposite sex. If the child is gay, well then it would also obviously be inappropriate to allow him/her to spend the night with friends of the same sex. I don't blame your parents at all for this.

I personally do not support homosexuality. While I feel like it is your choice, I can't help but feel that it is a CHOICE and not just something that happens naturally. Also, you are 13 years old. You honestly have no idea about the future of your love life or romantic relationships. PERIOD. You have no idea how you will feel when you are 16, 18, 21, 35, or 60. A 13-year-old's opinion IS certainly valid, however, please realize that as you mature and grow older, your opinion may (and probably will) change drastically.

ok, thanks for all the wonderful advice i got, but i think i can just figure things out on my own, thanks to well...none of you since the only advice i got was bull****. once again, thanks for making me feel like **** when i REALLY NEEDED IT.

If you thought you could figure it out on your own then why did you even come here in the first place?

And, also, I am NOT trying to make things harder for you. I am trying to help you see the facts. I made a clear recommendation on what you could do about the car issue.

The others, there is really nothing you can do because you are only 13 and you have no idea what your "true" feelings are yet.

You are 13 years old. You are just a child. Yes a CHILD. Have fun and enjoy it while it lasts. Don't worry about being "gay" or anything. While you are discovering your "sexuality," you might THINK you have a crush on a guy or something. This does NOT mean you are gay. I guarantee there is a VERY good chance things will be different in as little as a couple of years.

ok, thanks for all the wonderful advice i got, but i think i can just figure things out on my own, thanks to well...none of you since the only advice i got was bull****. once again, thanks for making me feel like **** when i REALLY NEEDED IT.
Yep, you are a 13 year old brat that is begging to have his mouth washed out with soap. We can sincerely hope that you gain a little bit of knowledge as you grow up. The alternative is frightening. You need counseling. If you are truly this confused and depressed to the point of suicide, that is your ONLY answer. If you are just trying to be dark, moody and dramatic let me tell you, it's not "cool". It's stupid. Purposely harboring depressing thoughts and attitude can lead you into true depression. You are 13. Do you want to spend the rest of your looooong life being depressed and boring, or would you rather grow up a bit, and make somethng of yourself? Your parents don't owe you anything. If anything, you owe them thanks for providing you with LIFE, a roof over your head, food in your belly, clothes to wear, a computer to cuss on, and a bed to sleep in. You have more than the vast majority of people on this planet. Try focusing on something other than your privileged self. Go volunteer in a soup kitchen or with a charity or organization that interests you. Personally, I don't care if you're gay or not. It is the way you are made. Big whoop. Why do you think that everyone should worry about whether a boy or a girl excites you? You're not sleeping with me, so whoopie. Find something else to focus on. There are MANY homosexuals that have managed to have fulfilling lives, even if they did not have the support of their families. Get over yourself and try to at least maintain a veneer of politeness. It will take you farther in life than anything else will.

ok, thanks for all the wonderful advice i got, but i think i can just figure things out on my own, thanks to well...none of you since the only advice i got was bull****. once again, thanks for making me feel like **** when i REALLY NEEDED IT.

You want LEGAL advice, here it is. NO state in the US will emancipate a 13 year old under ANY circumstances, EVER. You can't even get a job to support yourself. The whole thought of suing your parents, mark that off your list. Since you are only 13, your parents would have to file the lawsuit on your behalf and I seriously doubt that they would be willing to sue themselves.

So, if you still think you have it so bad, call social services and turn your parents in. After a few months in foster care, I'm sure you will soon realize that your parents aren't as bad as you first thought.

Dude. You are way to young to be thinking about emancipating yourself, especially because just because your parents won't let you hang out with friends. I'm going to try and be helpful without being condescending. You need proof that your parents are being harmful to you in some way.

If you go into a courtroom and say that you're suicidal, number one, they are going to recommend you to a counselour or mental ward. Number two, they are going to laugh if you say that you want to sue them. What would your court case be like? "I'm sueing you because i'm gay and you don't like it. Now gimme some money cuz i need a car." You're thinking so small-mindly, like a thirteen year old.

I have no doubt that it's hard for you living in these situations. You just have to give it a little while longer, mature a little bit.

Dude. You are way to young to be thinking about emancipating yourself, especially because just because your parents won't let you hang out with friends. I'm going to try and be helpful without being condescending. You need proof that your parents are being harmful to you in some way.

If you go into a courtroom and say that you're suicidal, number one, they are going to recommend you to a counselour or mental ward. Number two, they are going to laugh if you say that you want to sue them. What would your court case be like? "I'm sueing you because i'm gay and you don't like it. Now gimme some money cuz i need a car." You're thinking so small-mindly, like a thirteen year old.

I have no doubt that it's hard for you living in these situations. You just have to give it a little while longer, mature a little bit.

A teenager that actually "gets" it!

We can sincerely hope that you gain a little bit of knowledge as you grow up. The alternative is frightening.

Hahahaha. I love this.

ok the gay person...thats jus nasty...why dont you go out with someone thats not your sex! ok go out with a girl...cuz there is NOT alot of boys that like other boys! but there ARE boys that like other girls.....SO GO BAK IN THE CLOSET FREAK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Apparently you need to read more. The gay and lesbian population in the US is at least 9-14%. Many studies have concluded that this number is actually UNDER REPORTED by as much as 8% because of the fear people have of closed-minded, bigoted, pricks like YOU.

There are same-sex couple households in 99% of the counties in the US. Of those, 1 in 4 have children and more then 1 in 10 have at least one partner over 65. Furthermore, 15% of these same sex couples are biracial and in more then 14%, at least one party has served in the military.

Studies also conclude that same sex households are under reported by 14-16%, again because of fear of closed-minded, bigoted, pricks like YOU.

Teenagers have enough emotional drama to deal with. They DO NOT need SOB's's like you spewing your hatred at them.

As Shakespeare once said "Thou doth protest too much". Usually the ones that scream the loudest against something are those with the most to hide. It makes one wonder what it is YOU are daydreaming about.

ok the gay person...thats jus nasty...why dont you go out with someone thats not your sex! ok go out with a girl...cuz there is NOT alot of boys that like other boys! but there ARE boys that like other girls.....SO GO BAK IN THE CLOSET FREAK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I find it really sad and frightening that a 16 year old girl (that wants to move in with her boyfriend because mommy and daddy won't let her hang out with losers) has this much hostility and hatred inside. How does any person's sexual orientation affect you? Tell me ONE WAY IT HAS ANY EFFECT IN YOUR LIFE. Since you can't (at least not a valid example, bull sh*t doesn't count, little girl) I suggest you close your mouth until you have anything intelligent to say. What a loss of hope for a better future for EVERYBODY.

sorry for the person thats gay the quote that was put up on this page was by a friend of mine ashley harris she can be inmature at times.i got upset when i saw she put this horriable quote up here by me sorry for the people that it infected...i hope things get better along the for all of yall and best wishes....